STAY CONNECTED! Click here to join the Codependency Alchemy MembershipListen to Luce's Soul Retrieval session here.In this episode:* How Luce discovered codependency work and what led her to it* What her initial thoughts and hesitations were around codependency and inner child work* How the work we do in the Codependency Alchemy membership has transformed her life, and the breakthroughs she has had since joining* The insights and gifts that she has uncovered through inner child healing This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Updates: Next week’s podcast will be the last episode of the year as I take a break to focus on our community here on Substack. I’m excited to create deeper connections and introduce new, fun ways for us to connect. If you haven’t already, download the Substack app to join in!Also, a quick reminder—membership is still just $9/month for now, but the price will increase in the new year so if you’ve been thinking about joining make sure you hop in now!👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy MembershipThis week on our 1:1 session episode, Codependency Alchemy member Rachael came to the call experiencing a pattern of needing to have everything figured out before taking action— something I know I certainly relate to!You asked for it, here it is…I haven’t opened one-on-one sessions up to the public in a veryyyy long time, but it’s clear there is a huge need for it right now, as many of us are experiencing the HARDEST moments in our relationships— it kind of feels like a pressure cooker, doesn’t it? Let’s just say, in this session you’ll start to find the release valve.Spots are limited so make sure to grab one before they run out!Book a one-on-one Codependency Healing Session This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In today’s post, I’m sharing a few things I wish I had known at the start of my relationship with Justin, and honestly, even before I started dating anyone. These realizations have been game-changers for me, and I hope they resonate with you too.Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉🏾 GET 10% OFF ON MEMBERSHIPAs a Codependency Alchemy member, you have access to a library of resources aimed at helping you bring deeper awareness to the root of your codependency tendencies. Members looking to get the most out of their membership and wanting to start making profound shifts in their life can access masterclasses, meetups, private podcast episodes, and guided meditations. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This story is a powerful reminder that our healing comes from facing the uncomfortable emotions and beliefs we carry, even when they feel overwhelming. It’s through sitting with our pain and giving it space that we find freedom and peace.Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉🏾 GET 10% OFF ON MEMBERSHIPAs a Codependency Alchemy member, you have access to a library of resources aimed at helping you bring deeper awareness to the root of your codependency tendencies. Members looking to get the most out of their membership and wanting to start making profound shifts in their life can access masterclasses, meetups, private podcast episodes, and guided meditations. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I’m excited to share a personal story today—one that has layers beyond what it seems. You’re definitely going to want to grab a drink, get comfortable, and enjoy. We're talking about boundaries, cookies, and the uncomfy parts of learning our own dysfunction through our relationship dynamics.Only 5 days left to get HTMW Workbook for 50% off!Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉🏾 GET 10% OFF ON MEMBERSHIPAs a Codependency Alchemy member, you have access to a library of resources aimed at helping you bring deeper awareness to the root of your codependency tendencies. Members looking to get the most out of their membership and wanting to start making profound shifts in their life can access masterclasses, meetups, private podcast episodes, and guided meditations.Monthly Masterclass | September 5th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻Monthly Meetup | September 12th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻AMA Chat | September 19th | 10am-12pm (PDT) | Click here to RSVP for Chat 📱Shadow Work Sunday | Every Sunday | Thread on Substack🧵Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This week I get to sit down with a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership, Nicole, who is exploring the challenges of parenting while navigating her own inner healing journey. In this session I guide Nicole through shadow work and an inner child healing, validate her unmet needs, and help release the burdens of feeling "broken" and "not good enough."This conversation offers a roadmap for intergenerational healing and the courage to show up authentically, even in the midst of our own imperfections.Grab Healing the Mother Wound Workbook for less than $10 using promo code "ANNIVERSARY"!Buy a copy of "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth"Buy your copy on AmazonDownload my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉🏾 GET 10% OFF ON MEMBERSHIPAs a Codependency Alchemy member, you have access to a library of resources aimed at helping you bring deeper awareness to the root of your codependency tendencies. Members looking to get the most out of their membership and wanting to start making profound shifts in their life can access masterclasses, meetups, private podcast episodes, and guided meditations.Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, I take you back to 2018, when my relationship was taken over by darkness. My partner Justin was battling depression, and I was trapped in a cycle of trying to "fix" him, making his pain and discomfort my responsibility. It led us to a breaking point, where we both felt unseen and alone.Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉🏾 GET 10% OFF ON MEMBERSHIPAs a Codependency Alchemy member, you have access to a library of resources aimed at helping you bring deeper awareness to the root of your codependency tendencies. Members looking to get the most out of their membership and wanting to start making profound shifts in their life can access masterclasses, meetups, private podcast episodes, and guided meditations.Monthly Masterclass | September 5th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻Monthly Meetup | September 12th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻AMA Chat | September 19th | 10am-12pm (PDT) | Click here to RSVP for Chat 📱Shadow Work Sunday | Every Sunday | Thread on Substack🧵Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

On today's episode, I sit down with KaRonna, a working mom struggling with something I think many of us can relate to— the inability to prioritize herself and her own needs amidst the demands of career, parenthood, and life in general, fearing she'll make the wrong decision.Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉🏾 GET 10% OFF ON MEMBERSHIPAs a Codependency Alchemy member, you have access to a library of resources aimed at helping you bring deeper awareness to the root of your codependency tendencies. Members looking to get the most out of their membership and wanting to start making profound shifts in their life can access masterclasses, meetups, private podcast episodes, and guided meditations.Monthly Masterclass | September 5th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻Monthly Meetup | September 12th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻AMA Chat | September 19th | 10am-12pm (PDT) | Click here to RSVP for Chat 📱Shadow Work Sunday | Every Sunday | Thread on Substack🧵Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this raw and vulnerable episode (my first time actually crying on the podcast), I open up about my recent experience with depression and feeling discomfort with slowness and spaciousness in my life, which was triggering fears around losing my sense of purpose and self-worth if I'm "not doing anything.”Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉🏾 GET 10% OFF ON MEMBERSHIPAs a Codependency Alchemy member, you have access to a library of resources aimed at helping you bring deeper awareness to the root of your codependency tendencies. Members looking to get the most out of their membership and wanting to start making profound shifts in their life can access masterclasses, meetups, private podcast episodes, and guided meditations.Monthly Masterclass | September 5th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻Monthly Meetup | September 12th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻AMA Chat | September 19th | 10am-12pm (PDT) | Click here to RSVP for Chat 📱Shadow Work Sunday | Every Sunday | Thread on Substack🧵Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this 1:1 session I sit with a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership. Lena was struggling with codependency, insecurity, and fears around her partner leaving her or cheating which was triggering past traumas. Her goals were to build self-acceptance, heal from past hurts, and develop the ability to set compassionate boundaries in her relationship.👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Mastermind waitlist👉🏾 Save 10% on The Membership👉🏾 Watch the masterclass on Boundaries This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Here’s the thing that we need to really start understanding: we have spent countless days, months, and years over-identifying and picking apart our mind’s stories, beliefs, and thoughts. In doing so, we have completely neglected our bodies stories which hold the keys to our deepest forms of healing and transformation.In today’s episode I guide the women on the call through a somatic practice where you will take away information and an experience that will illuminate how your body is physically responding to certain patterns and tendencies.With this wisdom and practice you can begin to access the precise actions needed for you to clear what is blocking you from living your most fulfilling and authentic life.Need help or support in doing the shadow work and inner child healing? Join us in our Monthly Masterclasses, Meetups, and AMA Chats in the Codependency Alchemy Membership! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I recently did a free 3-day immersion where I walked those who signed up through a masterclass on Identifying Codependency, using shadow work and a somatic practice to explore in community.The next two episodes are from this masterclass, and I hope you enjoy the conversations we had as much as I did!What we cover in today’s episode:* What is the mother wound?* What is codependency?* Reflection on close relationships to see where codependency shows up in your life* How to do shadow work for codependency patterns and why this is so important for deep healingReceiving support and perspectives from others can really deepen our healing process. I encourage you to share your experiences and insights in the comments or our Codependency Alchemy chat. This helps build connection and encourages us as we navigate these parts of us.Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me or our community if you need guidance or accountability in implementing the inner child healing practices. You can join the Codependency Alchemy Membership by upgrading your subscription for $9/month and get ongoing support, resources, and community with like-minded souls healing codependency. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In today’s episode Crystal asks for support on what to do when conflict comes up in her relationships, how self-sabotage has started to show up, and fears around her partner leaving and finding someone better.Resources:IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore👩🏽‍🤝‍👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This week I share about my journey navigating food and meals in our home when we have different health/eating goals. Learn how to establish autonomy over food choices, practice self-trust, and support your partner's (and your own) individual journey.Resources:* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Many of us struggle with vulnerability and getting close to people, even though deep down it is what we deeply desire. In this episode I get to witness Aaron, who moved a lot in his childhood and felt like he learned to not get attached because everything was temporary.Resources:THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore👩🏽‍🤝‍👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we explore how choosing compassion and grace over self-criticism can help heal codependency and the mother wound.When we are hard on ourselves for our perceived flaws or mistakes, we perpetuate feelings of not being good enough. It is through showing ourselves compassion and accepting where we are in our journey that we actually create enough spaciousness to heal codependency and the mother wound within us.I’ll be reading from my book “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” today, and sharing from the section titled, “Destiny”.I hope these words are like a salve to your soul, and that they remind you of who you truly are.Resources:IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore👩🏽‍🤝‍👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode I get to sit with Santia and explore the challenges that come from a relationship ending, and I know that many of us can relate!Shadow Work Prompt* “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid it will mean about me?)* “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid will happen?)Resources:IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore👩🏽‍🤝‍👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Today we’re going to get into some of the most common codependency warnings signs that I’ve learned along the way.Resources:* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I'm going to be doing a long-awaited podcast episode on something I promised you a long time ago— and to be quite honest, I forgot! This episode is going to be about the tool that Justin and I used to help rebuild the trust in our relationship when we got back together.Resources:IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5👉🏾 Check out June Events for Codependency Alchemy: The Membership👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore👩🏽‍🤝‍👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this weeks podcast episode we explore shadow work and inner child healing with Marella, who has noticed her our anxious tendencies in her relationship and is curious about how to start exploring more healthy and supportive patterns for herself and her relationship.Listen to this full episode by subscribing to Codependency Alchemy: The Membership for $9/month (or less when you join annually)Resources:IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN! 👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5👉🏾 Check out June Events for Codependency Alchemy: The Membership👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore👩🏽‍🤝‍👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This week’s podcast episode is my personal share on what transpired over those few days where we were not on the same page, how I managed to stay aware that I was triggered by the things he was saying to me, and instead of getting defensive and fighting with him, how I was able to bring the conversation forward in a way that allowed for deep and meaningful connection and repairs in our relationship.👉🏾 Check out June Events for Codependency Alchemy: The MembershipCodependency Alchemy Immersion- June 23rd-25thI’m am so excited to hold a free 3-day immersion, where you can get a glimpse into what it is like in The Membership. Each day of the immersion we will be experiencing a different aspect of The Membership!* Sunday, June 23rd: We will be coming together for a masterclass on Exploring Codependency and The Mother Wound.* Monday, June 24th: You’ll get to expereince what our Monthly Meetups are like and receive hot-seat coaching, where I will guide you through shadow work and inner child healing for whatever you are presently expereiencing in your relationship.* Tuesday, June 25th: You’ll get to join me for a private AMA chat (Ask Me Anything) where I will go back and forth with you on whatever you are needing or looking for support on! Think of this as a private chat room where you can be supported and witnessed.Resources:* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

If you feel like it'd your job to make everyone happy, or that it's always your fault when someone is upset, this definitely listen to today's episode. To learn more about why we do this, and practical solutions that you can implement in your life and relationships to help you navigate this pattern, you can check out the masterclass we did on this in the Codependency Alchemy Membership.Resources:* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. ONLY $25 FOR THE MONTH OF MAY!* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I’ll never forget when I was in my situationship back in 2019 and all my sexual abuse trauma came bubbling up to the surface. I was completely confused because I felt like I had forgiven and put that past me, and I couldn’t understand why it so loud all of a sudden.I learned that I had really repressed some very real feelings and emotions that a very young part of me was still holding. And in today’s podcast episode, Marcee was experiencing something very similar.Please keep in mind when listening to today’s podcast episode that we will be discussing sexual abuse and trauma, so if this topic is sensitive to you please take care of your needs and check in with yourself before listening. This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

For those of us with codependent or anxious attachment patterns, it's super common to find ourselves making a new person or relationship mean something about us. We start dreaming up this whole future with them and attaching our sense of self-worth and belonging to how much they like us.Resources:* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. ONLY $25 FOR THE MONTH OF MAY!* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

When we have experienced abusive relationships, it can be challenging to trust ourselves and others. I remember feeling betrayed by myself, like how could I allow myself to be in something so toxic for so long? If I didn’t know better then, how could I trust myself to know better in the future?Here is the shadow work prompt we explored in this episode:“If I trust (this person/the good things that are happening), then…?” (what are you afraid will happen?) This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Opening up about a past "situationship" was incredibly difficult (or should I say embarrassing), but I really wanted to share with you all how that experience illuminated my insecure attachment patterns and codependent behaviors that I was completely unaware of.What is a situationship? I would describe a situationship as a romantic connection, but nothing that suggests commitment. It’s perfect if you want to be in limbo and constantly question your sanity. 🤣Resources:* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. * Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.comHonestly feeling unwell. Annoyed. This is the best word to describe me right now. I'm dysregulated AF. Everything seems to just have the perfect smell, taste, or sound to just send me into a spiral, like smoke out of my ears fuming.I loathe feeling this way.And yet feeling this way is the key to unlock the next door I'm being invited to walk through. An…

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.comIf you find yourself blaming someone or something outside of you, you are avoiding something within you.It was so lovely to connect with those of you who were able to make the call for our April Meetup. Here’s the inner child practice that was mentioned on the call today:I want to thank you again for your vulnerability, courage, and curiosity on the call. It was so powerful to walk so many of you through shadow work and inner child healing! Please feel free to leave any reflections that came through for you in the comments.ILYSM 🤟🏾AlyssaCodependency Alchemy by Alyssa Zander is a membership and podcast created to empower you in becoming your most authentic self with confidence and ease by overcoming self-doubt, guilt, and shadow aspects of yourself that have you looping in dysfunctional patterns in your relationships. To join monthly meetups like this one, and get access to more resources for supporting you in your healing codependency journey, you can upgrade your subscription to paid and join our growing community.Upcoming EventsApril 18th: AMA ChatBring your questions to our AMA Chat on Thursday, April 18th between 10AM-1PM (PST)

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.comThis months Masterclass in Codependency Alchemy: The Membership for paid subscribers is on How to Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People's Feelings and Moods, and discovering common signs of codependency like fixing others' problems, excessive apologizing, and changing boundaries to please others. Learn how to identify these patterns and why we do them with the shadow work prompts I share with you. If you’re interested in watching the full class and transcript, you can upgrade to paid.

I know I needed community and a brave place for me to navigate my unhealthy relationship patterns, so I created the places I needed. In this episode I talk about how Codependency Alchemy has grown, and thank you all for an amazing SEASON 2!This is just the beginning babes. Stay tuned.Resources:Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on InstagramCLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Many of the women I have the privilege of working with are mothers. Mothers who feel touched out and need space, but feel guilt when it comes for asking or taking it, or they struggle trusting the resilience of their child and their partner to figure out their own way. I share about my background with child development and things I've learned about cultivating a prepared environment that supports the child's development and behavior.Resources:Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on InstagramCLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDOn Children - By Kahlil GibranCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

What is reasonable, or not reasonable when it comes to asking your partner for support. Additionally, what can you rely on your partner for? What are you afraid will happen or what are you afraid it might mean about you if you ask for what you need, or if you ask for support?  This was a question submitted in the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram. If you want to drop your own topic suggestions make sure you join the Broadcast Channel by clicking here: Codependency Alchemy Broadcast ChannelResources:CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDCatch the Healing the Mother Wound Masterclass Replay on SubstackCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.comIt was so lovely to connect with those of you who were able to make the call for our March Meetup. Please feel free to leave any reflections that came through for you in the comments!ILYSM 🤟🏾AlyssaCodependency Alchemy by Alyssa Zander is a membership and podcast created to empower you in becoming your most authentic self with confidence and ease by overcoming self-doubt and guilt. To join monthly meetups like this one, and get access to more resources for supporting you in your healing codependency journey, you can upgrade your subscription to paid and join our growing community.

When one partner consistently over-gives or seeks to create comfort for the other, a pattern emerges—one that often stems from deep-seated codependent tendencies rooted in fears of abandonment and rejection. In this episode we explore how these patterns manifest, the toll they take on both partners, and how to navigate towards healthier, more balanced relationships. Resources:CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I think we can all agree that breakups are hardly ever easy. In this episode I talk about the breakup that pushed me to my edges, and how I finally had to face myself (and my unresolved trauma) in the process. I talk about the pain, revelations, and healing that took place through some of the darkest moments of my life. Without this breakup, I wouldn't be who I am today.Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I think this means I passed the test?! Join me as I tell you babes about a vivid dream that sent me tumbling down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and fear, threatening to sabotage my relationship, once again. I unravel the familiar patterns and confront the impulse to push away someone I love. Resources:Listen to Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & JoyCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit alyssaaazander.substack.comThis months Masterclass in Codependency Alchemy: The Membership for paid subscribers is on Healing the Mother Wound, where we begin to recognize the role of the mother wound and the ways it perpetuates codependent behaviors in our life and relationships. If you’re interested in watching the full class, you can upgrade to paid and access the video and full transcript.In this masterclass I will be sharing about the connection between the mother wound and codependency, empowering us all in uncovering unhealthy dynamics and supporting us in cultivating a healthy level independence... yes, healthy level, because hyper-independence can also be a trauma response that can negatively effect our relationships and is actually really common when we experience the mother wound.What is the Mother Wound?The mother wound comes from the absence of safety and love we needed as children from our mothers.It doesn't imply that your mother was unloving or uncaring overall, but rather highlights moments when you felt unworthy and inadequate, believing you weren't good or perfect enough to receive your mother's love and validation.This leads to experiencing a fear of abandonment, rejection, betrayal, and an overall feeling of unworthiness.In this masterclass we will explore:* What is the mother wound?* What is codependency?* How the mother wound and codependency are interrelated* Shadow work (getting to the root and reality checking some of our codependency tendencies) * A somatic and inner child healing practiceAfter watching the masterclass, I invite you to join me in the comments, sharing what came through regarding the shadow work prompts, and the somatic/inner child practice. You’re welcome to ask questions and share your take-aways from the class in the comments as well!

This week we're talking about insecure attachment styles! We'll uncover the roots of anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles. From understanding childhood traumas to its impact on our adult relationships, we'll explore how self-awareness, vulnerability, and personal responsibility can pave the way towards earned secure attachment, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, Alyssa shares her personal journey of navigating conflict with a dysregulated partner while healing from an insecure attachment style. We'll talk about setting boundaries with compassion, creating space for your partner's emotions without feeling the need to "fix" them, and trusting in the resilience of both yourself and your partner. If you've struggled with anxious attachment or fearful avoidant attachment in your relationships, this episode offers gives you a real life experience of what conflicts can look like when you're stepping into earned secure attachment.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode Alyssa Zander will give four prompts that will help you in understanding your shadow self. Learn how staying curious opens your heart and eases the ego, paving the way for self-reflection and personal growth.Explore powerful journal prompts to meet your shadow self. Uncover the nuances of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors by bringing curiosity to situations that trigger strong reactions.Discover how asking why certain aspects of your personality make you uncomfortable can lead to greater self-awareness, unveiling potential elements of your shadow self.Engage in honest and open journaling about your experiences. Identify recurring patterns in your thoughts and behaviors to uncover themes of your shadow self.Learn about what your shadow aspects need from you instead of suppressing them. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, Alyssa Zander addresses a listener's question on managing triggers within a current relationship. Discover three transformative strategies that have personally supported Alyssa in navigating relationship triggers, highlighting the importance of taking personal responsibility for emotional safety.Learn about how triggers often arise when we don't feel safe within ourselves, and why it is so important to take personal responsibility for our emotional safety.Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation: Understand the two-fold approach to managing triggers.Discover how practicing self-compassion and sharing your healing journey with your partner, with consent, can deepen understanding and connection.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, Alyssa opens up about the journey of her relationship, exploring the nuances of a healthy, consistent connection and the unexpected challenges she faced. Discover the hidden dynamics that can arise in healthy relationships, and how unresolved trauma can impact our perception of love.Uncover the subtle triggers that may arise and how they are invitations to heal unresolved trauma.Explore the concept of self-sabotage in healthy relationships, particularly for those who have experienced trauma. Personal share about things I wish I had done differently in the beginning.Want to hear Part 2: The Breakup? Let me know in the poll or the comments!🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this deeply personal episode, Alyssa Zander shares a vulnerable moment of navigating through a depressive state and intrusive thoughts that sent her spiraling. Discover three empowering questions that guided Alyssa through the darkness and can support you in moments of discomfort or when you are feeling stuck.Move from victim consciousness to empowerment by exploring the wisdom and teachings within challenging experiences.Illuminate the traits you are being invited to embody during moments of depression, providing a guiding anchor to filter your experiences through.Reality check intrusive thoughts and align your thoughts with how you desire to feel, creating a shift in your emotional state.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Oprah's Super Soul Conversations with Michael Bernard Beckwith: Participate in Your UnfoldingWhy People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & JoyCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Forgiveness can feel hard to reach, especially if we have been hurt or harmed in the past. I hope to offer some new perspectives in this weeks episode. What are 10 things you are ready to forgive yourself for?🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Inner child work can be messy and intense, as it was for me this week! I go into it all in this week's episode. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Resentment is your teacher, and the sooner you listen to it the better off your relationships will be. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Conflicts can bring out the worst in us, and they can also be catalysts for the deepest kinds of connection and intimacy. In this episode I share about what to do to avoid the nasty cut-throat interactions so that you can have heart-opening conversations that lead to productive and desired outcomes, for everyone.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Let's talk about people-pleasing, codependency, "making other people happy brings me happiness" and where this way of relating can actually be keeping you from accessing your authentic joy. Genuine happiness in relationships is built from an overflow of trust, safety, and love that's been cultivated from within yourself first. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Shadow Work Prompts for People-Pleasing Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

We've all been there (I think 😅) where you just can't stand your partner and you're at your wits end. In this episode I share something that has helped me overcome my limited perceptions of my partner and others so that I could experience more love and joy in my life and relationships. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Taking radical personal responsibility rubs up against all of our fears of rejection and abandonment. It is, however, the very thing that can deeply heal our relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode I sit down with one of my best friends, Victoria St. Fleur (@ofrootandbranch), as she shares about some of the tools and perspectives that have helped her in healing codependency in her relationships, business, and life. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you find yourself defending yourself all the time? In this episode we explore our fears around being wrong and bring in new ways of relating so that we can stop going to war with the ones we love.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

This week we have a vvv special guest, Patrick, who is here to share with us how his relationship has changed since he and his partner began to tend to the codependency patterns in their relationship. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I get together with my bestie, Erynn (LPC), to talk about how to hold ourselves when the fear of abandonment comes in. Basically, we share about what the healing journey REALLY looks like. (Hint hint: it's messy AF, sis)🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Many of us have experienced periods of chaos, especially in our childhoods, and then we watch it play out in our relationships, careers, and personal lives. Years of normalizing chaos primed our nervous system to attune and be more comfortable in it. Wild paradox, right?! Chaos becomes our default state of "safety." But what if there's a path to a more abundant and genuinely safe existence? Check out this weeks podcast episode where I share about my personal path from chaos to abundance.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Listen, we all experience a fear of abandonment, and in this episode I give a visual representation of this fear and how we can overcome it in our lives, relationships, and work. My intention is that you walk away feeling empowered, inspired, and lighter around the core wound of abandonment. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I get together with another Codependency Alchemy member to talk about fears around something we don't completely understand, and how it always's comes back to safety. We talk about embracing sexuality, fears around being sexualized, being in a state of fear, and more!🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode I coach a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership. We discuss her fear around "taking a step back" from her business and a reframe for this, and I also support her in moving through a past experience that was bringing up a lot of anger, frustration, and resentment. Grab this assessment 👉🏾 Are You Codependent? 10 Questions to Ask Codependency Alchemy: The Course 👉🏾 An in-depth self-paced course and workbookJoin our community 👉🏾 Subscribe on SubstackWe're celebrating getting into the top 10% of podcasts globally! 👉🏾 Get 50% off Codependency Alchemy: The Course in September when you use promo code SEPTEMBER!Follow me on all the things: InstagramTikTokYouTubeSupport the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this Alchemy episode we will be moving through a somatic practice, bringing awareness to where manipulation lives in our body so that we can access the healing this part of us needs. This episode is best listened to when you can find yourself in a safe space where you won't be interrupted. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, I coach a mom who is navigating old toxic relationship dynamics, and how they impact her life as a partner and a mom. So much of what we learned, and how we learned to be, growing up can have an influence on how we relate to others in our adult life. If you have ever felt responsible for everyone's emotions and feelings, this episode will help you not feel so alone, and remind you who's feelings and emotions you ARE responsible for: yours.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Me? Manipulate? YIKES. In this episode I get real and vulnerable with you about my first conscious exploration of manipulation, and how I started to see all the ways I WAS MANIPULATING while on a trip with my partner. You're gonna want to listen to this one, babes!🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Do you notice yourself getting angry when you feel that you have clearly conveyed or communicated something with someone and then they act like it was never heard or seen? Do you feel like you are sometimes talking to a wall? If you feel disrespected and frustrated when communicating your boundaries to others then this Q&A episode is for you!🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

When there is something we are struggling with, there is usually an underlying fear that is keeping us from doing the thing. In this weeks Alchemy episode we are going to move through the shadow work and somatic work for uncovering what those fears are, and meeting them within ourselves so that we can experience more compassion and joy in our lives and in our relationships.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

We hear a lot about boundaries and the importance of them, but there is this misconception that boundaries mean someone else needs to do (or not do) something in order to "respect" your boundaries... I have a hot take on this, have a listen!🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

I loved our conversation on feeling burnt out on enforcing boundaries, and how we can shift our perception of others misunderstanding (or outright ignoring) us and our boundaries from a victim mentality to one that is empowering (hint hint: it has to do with curiosity!)🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

We celebrate the end of an incredible first season of Codependency Alchemy and share exciting news for the future!🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Join me as we unravel the intricate layers of fears  that can often leave us feeling vulnerable and uncertain in our relationships and discover empowering ways to heal and transform it. Together, we'll explore a somatic practice that has personally supported me in my own journey of healing core wounds related to abandonment, rejection, and betrayal.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

As people with codependency tendencies, we often believe that fixing or saving others makes us good people, even viewing it as our "job." However, underneath this seemingly noble intention lies a web of unconscious beliefs that drive our need to fix or save others. In Part One of this episode we focus on addressing the shadow work, navigating the uncharted territory of our own unconscious, exposing the beliefs that drive our fixing and saving tendencies.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In Part Two, we invite you to embark on a somatic journey, unraveling the roots of the pattern within your own body and unlocking the keys to self-empowerment. For the optimal experience, find a quiet space where you can close your eyes, creating an environment conducive to tapping into your inner wisdom. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, we delve deep into the intricate relationship between self-doubt and fear, unraveling the hidden layers that often go unnoticed. My hope is that you will leave with newfound clarity and are empowered to take action steps towards transmuting and meeting this part of yourself with compassion and grace. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we emphasize the importance of getting clear on your desires and focusing on how they make you feel, rather than fixating on specific details. Uncover the steps you and your partner can take to manifest your desired experiences, creating a roadmap towards a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we explore the topic of relationship anxiety and self-sabotage and how it can impact our ability to step fully into a healthy relationship. This episode will guide you through an inner child and shadow work practice to help you identify the root of your relationship anxiety and self-sabotaging behavior. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, I share my personal experiences with codependency and how it has manifested in seeking validation outside of myself and falling into the trap of fixing and saviorism with a family member. Join me as I discuss the power of self-awareness, personal responsibility, and the journey towards healing codependency.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we explore the challenges of asserting boundaries in relationships. Whether you're struggling with over-giving in your romantic relationship or feeling drained by always saying yes to friends and family, this episode will provide valuable insights and practical strategies for setting healthy boundaries and creating fulfilling relationships.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever felt an intense spark or love at first sight, only to realize later that it was a toxic and emotionally abusive relationship? In this episode, we explore the difference between chemistry and trauma bonding, and how to identify if you are in a healthy, loving relationship. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

Alyssa Zander here, your favorite codependency and relationship coach! I am so excited to embark on this podcast journey where I will continue to share my personal stories and expertise on how to heal from codependency and navigate relationships in a healthy way. After experiencing trauma and struggling with core wounds of abandonment, rejection, and betrayal, I began to explore the parts of myself that feared these things and realized that as an adult, I was playing them out in my life and relationships. Through tending to these parts of myself, I was able to begin my healing journey around codependency and begin to live a more fulfilling life. In this podcast, I will share my journey, tools, and ways to navigate the ebbs and flows of life and relationships in a loving and compassionate way. Join me in healing the mother wound, cultivating a space for women to be seen and heard, and moving from resentment, martyrdom, and people-pleasing to becoming strong and confident women who ask for what they need while holding the frequency of love and compassion. Tune in to learn how to transform your life through healing the mother wound and navigating codependency.JOIN THE CODEPENDENCY ALCHEMY MEMBERSHIPThe Codependency Alchemy Podcast is dedicated to exploring various aspects of codependency, personal growth, and transformation and the episodes are inspired by the Codependency Alchemy Membership. By becoming a member of our Codependency Alchemy community, you'll gain access to an exclusive space where you can connect with a collective of women who are on a similar path of self-discovery and transformation. In this supportive and nurturing environment, you'll find the guidance, understanding, and encouragement you need to navigate the intricacies of healing codependency patterns.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we dive deep into the patterns of over-giving and self-sacrifice, and explore the reasons behind why we engage in these behaviors. We discuss the transactional agenda behind over-giving and self-sacrifice, and the consequences of these patterns, including feelings of resentment, burnout, and being unappreciated.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we dive into the challenges of dealing with ghosting and anxious attachment in relationships. In this Q&A episode I take a question from a listener about her experience of struggling with codependency and anxiety when her partner doesn't respond for days at a time. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we delve into the topic of codependency and explore how it can impact our lives and relationships. We discuss how codependency can manifest as a lack of personal responsibility for ourselves and how we place our worth and good feelings about ourselves on something outside of us. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe