E82 - Dr. Ramani Durvasula, #1 Narcissism Expert: The Harsh Reality Of Toxic People & Setting Boundaries
E82 - Dr. Ramani Durvasula, #1 Narcissism Expert: The Harsh Reality Of Toxic People & Setting Boundaries  
Podcast: Know Thyself
Published On: Tue Feb 06 2024
Description: Today we are joined by clinical psychologist and narcissism expert Dr. Ramani Durvasala. Dr. Ramani unpacks narcissistic personality disorder, defining types of narcissism, how it’s diagnosed, and where this originates. She shares the implications of the extreme side of this disorder, discussing the dark reality of narcissistic abuse in relationships, love-bombing, triangulation, and gas-lighting. She provides advice for anyone stuck in a cycle of abuse or supporting a friend through this process. She reveals the sad truth of abuse: that most people never change. This is a great episode for anyone wanting to better understand this disorder and get out of a cycle of abuse. André's Book Recommendations: https://www.knowthyself.one/books ___________ Timecodes: 0:00 Intro 1:54 Defining & Identifying Narcissism  6:59 Why This Develops in People 10:20 Different Types of Narcissism  13:59 How Our Society Rewards Narcissism  15:36 How Certain Types Develop  19:16 At What Age Narcissism Begins  21:40 The Internal Reality of a Narcissist  25:45 Common Traits of Narcissistic Abuse  31:38 Why Love Bombing is Toxic  37:09 The True Meaning of Gaslighting  41:18 Triangulation & Cycles of Manipulation 42:40 When Self Esteem Becomes Too Much 47:14 Cultural Distinctions & Healing Family Trauma 52:18 Breaking Free of a Narcissistic Relationship  1:01:11 Will They Ever Change?  1:04:29 Is It You?  1:10:57 Supporting a Friend in an Abusive Relationship  1:14:45 Becoming Aware of Your Own Narcissism 1:19:28 The Sad Reality of Being a Narcissist  1:22:00 Spiritual Narcissism  1:28:07 Final Thoughts 1:35:34 Conclusion ___________ Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is an author of several books including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. The focus of Dr. Durvasula’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the etiology and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations. Her work has been featured at SXSW, TEDx, Red Table Talk, the Today Show, and Investigation Discovery. You can also find her on YouTube where she has accumulated millions of views on her videos discussing narcissism on her successful channel, and on social media @DoctorRamani. Now she will be adding the role of host to her resume as she launches her new podcast, Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani, a show that focuses on narcissism and its impact on relationships. Website: https://doctor-ramani.com Pre-Order “It’s Not You”: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/710202/its-not-you-by-ramani-durvasula-phd/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/ ___________ Looking to Start a Podcast? Podcasting Course: https://www.podcastpurpose.com/ Know Thyself Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/ Website: https://www.knowthyself.one Clips Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ4wglCWTJeWQC0exBalgKg Listen to all episodes on Audio:  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4FSiemtvZrWesGtO2MqTZ4?si=d389c8dee8fa4026 Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/know-thyself/id1633725927 André Duqum Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreduqum/ Meraki Media https://merakimedia.com https://www.instagram.com/merakimedia/