M Is for Mama Podcast
On the M is for Mama Podcast, you’ll hear encouragement for all things motherhood, practical helps and systems to help you thrive in your home from day to day, funny, relatable kid-stories, examinations of what the Bible has to say about cultural issues, and so much more!
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If we’re honest, we all have something to be grateful for: breath in our bodies, sun on our faces, a warm bowl of soup in our bellies, the sound of our children laughing in the other room… And then there are the even more obvious reasons to be thankful: job promotions, new babies, wishes fulfilled. But what about the things we don’t feel thankful for? Could there be any room for gratitude there? Any purpose or meaning behind the struggles we didn’t hope for? I believe, from personal experience and Biblical principle, the answer is yes! Join me as I unpack this truth in Episode 86. Sponsor Info: Purely Parsons Safe, clean essential oils and personal care products with high quality ingredients that are 100% natural and organic. Check out Purely Parsons! Code for Purely Parsons: MISFORMAMA10 Bible References: James 1:17 1 Peter 4:13 1 Peter 5:7 2 Corinthians 10:5 Romans 8:28 Hebrews 13:5 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
Join me as I chat with Kirk Cameron about how we as parents can have a godly influence on our kids, even with the clamor of worldly voices in their ears. We chat about current culture, Kirk’s goal in leaving mainstream Hollywood content creation, and his new show, Adventures of Iggy and Mr. Kirk—a resource for young children to counteract anti-biblical messaging from secular society. Be encouraged that you are not alone in the fight to disciple your children well in a way that honors God! Guest Info Kirk Cameron Instagram YouTube The American Campfire Revival Check out Adventures with Iggy and Mr. Kirk here! Sponsor Info: Voetberg Music Academy Check out Voetberg Music Academy Here Code: misformama20 Purely Parsons Safe, clean essential oils and personal care products with high quality ingredients that are 100% natural and organic. Check out Purely Parsons! Code for Purely Parsons: MISFORMAMA10 Bible References: 2 Chronicles 7:14 Romans 8:28 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
In a world which champions ungodly parenting philosophies, mocks the traditional family unit, and glorifies self over sacrifice, it can feel daunting to swim against the current of culture. But I have seen (and heard from) so many mamas who are doing just that and making a difference for good in their communities and the world at large. This episode is “an attagirl” and an encouragement to buck the status quo and value God’s wisdom above man’s. I am honored to stand with the Mama Bears who fear God not man and are invested in raising their children in the “teaching and admonition of the Lord.” Keep going. Your work matters, and the Lord is with you every step of the way. Sponsor Info: Voetberg Music Academy Check out Voetberg Music Academy Here Code: misformama20 Purely Parsons Safe, clean essential oils and personal care products with high quality ingredients that are 100% natural and organic. Check out Purely Parsons! Code for Purely Parsons: MISFORMAMA10 Bible References: 1 Peter 3:15 Galatians 6:9 Links: Rhythms Podcast Episode Jennifer Flanders and Birth Control Podcast Episode Mom Friends Podcast Episode M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
Back by popular demand, we’re doing a podcast version of my Whaddya Wanna Know Wednesday Q&A. Just a few of the topics include parenting only littles vs. parenting a variety of areas, a typical “week in the life” around here, how I got published, my favorite literary character, and so much more! Hope you enjoy this casual chat format. Be sure to submit questions via email to abbie@misformama.net if you’d like to be considered for the next WWKW episode. Sponsor Info: Voetberg Music Academy Check out Voetberg Music Academy Here Code: misformama20 Purely Parsons Safe, clean essential oils and personal care products with high quality ingredients that are 100% natural and organic. Check out Purely Parsons! Bible References: Proverbs 3:5-6 Links: Rhythms Podcast Episode Jennifer Flanders and Birth Control Podcast Episode Mom Friends Podcast Episode M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
This week, we continue with our chat with my pastor, Rick Witmer (or “Wit”), as he lays out a biblical case for reformed theology. We also get into some real-world examples that answer the question, “If God is truly sovereign, then why choose to take action at all?” Come unpack the “mystery box” of God’s sovereign will in conjunction with man’s responsibility to make choices in today’s thought-provoking episode! Sponsor Info: A'del Natural Beauty Cosmetics Natural, toxin-free cosmetics Use code MISFORMAMA for 25% off for first time users! Check out Christian Healthcare Ministries! Bible References: Psalm 100:5 Psalm 18:30 Matthew 5:48 1 Corinthians 1:25 Job Romans 9 John 16:33 Romans 12:15 2 Corinthians 1:4 John 3:16 2 Peter 3:9 2 Timothy 3:16 Matthew 5:43-45 Acts 11:1-3 Ephesians 2:14 Matthew 7:21-23 Revelation 7:9 2 Peter 3:9 1 Peter 2:9 John 8:43-37 Deuteronomy 7 Daniel 2:21 Proverbs 21:1 Mark 12:30-31 Romans 13:1-5 Psalm 2:12 Genesis 1-2 Proverbs 24:11 John 14:15 Luke 6:45 2 Peter 1:3 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
If you’ve ever heard of the doctrine of election or the five points of Calvinism, you may feel like you have more questions than answers about what those and many other tenets of Reformed theology mean. Since it’s Reformation Month—when Martin Luther nailed his 95 Theses to the door of a Catholic church—I thought it would be the perfect time to chat all things Reformed with my pastor, Rick Witmer, whom I call “Wit.” In this episode, he’s giving us background and answering some of your most pressing questions that you always submit on WWKW anytime I talk about attending a reformed church. I am so grateful for Wit’s wisdom, clear articulation, knowledge of church history, biblical prowess, and kindness. I know, no matter what your theological background, you’ll enjoy the conversational way he breaks down the essential beliefs of the Reformed movement with clarity and compassion. Stay tuned for Part 2 next week! Sponsor Info: A'del Natural Beauty Cosmetics Natural, toxin-free cosmetics! Voetberg Music Academy Check out Voetberg Music Academy Here Code: misformama20 Check out Christian Healthcare Ministries! Bible References: 2 Timothy 3:16-17 Isaiah 64:6 Matthew 19:16-22 Ephesians 2:1 Ephesians 1:3 John 6:44 John 3:3 Revelation 7:9 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24 Joshua 23:14-15 Matthew 11:28 Romans 3:23 Ephesians 1:11 Acts 4:27 John 19:18 Romans 11:34-36 Romans 11:36 Exodus 7:13-8:19 Exodus 9:12 Deuteronomy 6:6-8 Romans 9:15-16 Matthew 4:7 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
It’s easy to see someone doing well in an area (or multiple areas) and assume they’re killing it in every other arena as well. The truth is, while we strive for the balance of doing all things excellently to the glory of God, we often found our capacities particularly limited during certain seasons and generally limited all the time (bc no one is good at everything). Whether we are unusually busy (where I find myself right now), postpartum, solo-parenting, or something else altogether, we find ourselves needing to focus on the main things while being forced to let other areas go for a time. When we are careful to prioritize the needful things and prepare our hearts with reasonable expectations, we can still thrive through seasons of limited capacity while recognizing everyone will find themselves in a similar boat at some point—and the Lord can still use us all! Sponsor Info: Voetberg Music Academy Check out Voetberg Music Academy Here Code: misformama20 Check out Christian Healthcare Ministries! A'del Natural Beauty Cosmetics Natural, toxin-free cosmetics! Bible References: Psalm 118:24 Romans 3:23 Romans 10:9 Romans 2:8-9 Romans 6:1 Links: Podcast Episode on Comparison Podcast Episode on Seasons of Life Podcast Episode on How I Don't Do It All M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
On this episode, we’re trying something a little different by doing a podcast version of the Q&A I do every week on my social media. I tackle serious questions (like how to turn a bad day around when you’ve lost your cool) as well as lighthearted ones (could either of our sets of twins fools us by switching places??). I’d love to hear your thoughts and whether you’d like to see this as a regular installment of the podcast. Enjoy! Sponsor Info: Voetberg Music Academy Check out Voetberg Music Academy Here Code: misformama20 Check out Christian Healthcare Ministries! Bible References: 2 Corinthians 10:5 Ephesians 4:26 Philippians 1:21 Links: Episode 2 M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
September 24th is a momentous calendar date in our home as four of our share a birthday on it. Yep! Both our sets of twins are born on the same day, eight years apart. Of course, something that could only be a “God thing” is such a good reminder His ways are higher than mine—from the way He orchestrated their birthdays to the fact that He gave me twins at all, even though I was convinced they sounded hard and no fun. Be encouraged, friends that God’s sovereignty is a very good thing, even when it manifests in unexpected ways. Sponsor Info: Voetberg Music Academy Check out Voetberg Music Academy Here Code: misformama20 Check out Christianbook.com Bible References: Isaiah 55:8-9 Philippians 4:6-7 Links: Episode 2 M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
In a world which trumpets the anti-biblical message of “you do you” and walking in “your truth,” it can be easy for Bible-believing Christians to swing to the opposite extreme of assuming anything we’re passionate about comes from love of self or can’t be trusted. But the Bible makes it very clear that God directs our paths and has very specific purposes for our lives. And when we walk in them confidently, we honor Him. Even so, it can be easy to question the path He has for us when we encounter naysayers and critics who are quick to point out our faults. Does this mean we simply ignore them or capitulate to their demands? I believe the answer is more nuanced. In this episode, we talk about setting our faces like flint toward the will of our Father while being willing to adjust when someone has a legitimate concern. It’s a balance and one we will only strike well by being rooted in God’s Word and listening to His Holy Spirit. Sponsor Info: Voetberg Music Academy Check out Voetberg Music Academy Here Code: misformama20 Check out Christianbook.com Bible References: Romans 5:5 Psalm 119:105 Jeremiah 17:9 Deuteronomy 31:6 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
Ever wondered how you’ll make it through your day of work or homeschooling after a night of fractured sleep? Ever felt completely stuck in a hard situation, without a clear path to a solution? Ever wished someone wise would just write you a step-by-step solution to a sticky situation so you can love forward? The truth is, we rarely receive enlightenment or next steps in the way we hope we will. Instead, the Lord asks us to simply keep taking steps forward, doing the next needful thing. A truth God is teaching me very clearly in the season in which I find myself is one many of you need to hear as well, I believe: Sometimes, you don’t wonder how you’ll do it, “You just do” it. Sponsor Info: Voetberg Music Academy Check out Voetberg Music Academy Here Code: misformama20 Check out Christianbook.com Bible References: Philippians 4:19 2 Corinthians 12:9 1 Corinthians 10:13 Ecclesiastes 1:9 Hebrews 13:5 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
We’re back for part 2 of our chat with Blake Guichet about Christians and Politics. We chat about whether open borders and socialism are truly biblical, what it means that God is the one who raises up and brings down kings, and what this means for our political decisions as Bible-believing Christians. Wherever you fall on the political spectrum, we pray this episode will cause you to pray more, search your Bible diligently for truth, and trust yourself to the sovereign Lord of the universe whose purposes are always good, right, and true. Sponsor Info: Voetberg Music Academy Check out Voetberg Music Academy Here Code: misformama20 Check out Christian Healthcare Ministries Check out Christianbook.com Bible References: 1 Corinthians 14:33 James 1:27 Ruth Exodus 2:22 John 3:30 Ruth 2:2-3 Psalm 46 Isaiah 54:17 1 Timothy 5:8 Matthew 25:14-30 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
Ever wondered whether Christians should vote and, if so, for whom? What about socialism vs. capitalism? Which is more biblical? And how will you handle it if you share something unpopular, and you receive backlash? We tackle all of these topics and more in this two part series on “Christians and Politics.” Make no mistake: This is two conservative women grappling with all of these issues from a biblical perspective. We are not neutral. And we believe your theology (bc everybody has one) should dictate the policies you support. Ultimately, God is sovereign. But He has, in His sovereignty, placed us in this world for our good and His glory in every area of our lives, including politics. We pray this will be a helpful episode for anyone wondering, “How now shall we live?” in this tumultuous age. Sponsor Info: Check out Christian Healthcare Ministries Check out Christianbook.com Bible References: Matthew 10:28 Proverbs 21:1 Romans 2:11 1 Corinthians 12:12 Galatians 3:28 1 Thessalonians 5:22 Matthew 17:24-27 Romans 5 John 18:36 Ecclesiastes 1:9 Jeremiah 15:9 1 Corinthians 10:31 Esther 3-8 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
Ever heard the term prolapse? Or struggled to sneeze without peeing on yourself? Then, this episode is for you! Join us as we chat about why kegels can be a really bad idea, Google is the wrong place to go for prolapse advice, and even medical professionals don’t often have real solutions to our struggles. But take heart because God made our bodies capable of healing, and it starts with your willingness to learn about + engage with this not-so-fun but oh-so-important topic! Sponsor Info: Tighten Your TinklerResource Page for Tighten Your Tinkler Check out Tighten Your Tinkler! - Code: MAMA50 Voetberg Music Academy Check out Voetberg Music Academy Here Code: misformama20 Check out Christian Healthcare Ministries Check out Christianbook.com Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
Buckle up, friends, because a lot has happened since last May, and I’m chatting about it all during today’s episode. From family travel to trips abroad to really happy news, followed by sadness, it’s been a roller coaster ride of a summer. And yet, through it all, God is faithful and good to show Himself loving every step of the way. Sponsor Info: Voetberg Music Academy Site: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com/ Code: misformama20 Christian Healthcare Ministries Christianbook.com Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
Hey, friends! We’re back with new guests (Jep and Jessica Robertson of Duck Dynasty), new sponsors, and new encouragement. In this episode, the Robertsons share about how the Lord led them to adopt their son and the lessons God has taught them through the process. They also share about Dear Valor, the children’s book they wrote in order to share those lessons with others and chat about their backgrounds in coming to Christ + growing in their relationships with Him. Guest Info: Jep and Jessica Robertson's Book Sponsor Info: Voetberg Music Academy Site: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com/ Code: misformama20 Christianbook.com Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to unplug from all “smart” devices and return to the simplicity of a landline and a knock on the screen door? Erin Loechner brings her passion for educating families on ways to avoid common technological pitfalls, as well as her love of slow living to the show today for a fascinating conversation with someone truly willing to practice what she preaches. Plus, I love the fact that she brings all of her stories and data back to God’s Word and His Truth. Guest Info: Erin Loechner Sponsor Info: Yeah Baby Goods Code: MISFORMAMA Bible References: Psalms 33:4-5 Ecclesiastes 1:9 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
Join me as I chat with Brent and Katie Kruithof from Yeah, Baby Goods about a perspective shift that allowed them to view their home as the hub of their business endeavors and their spiritual pursuits. We talk about entrepreneurship, stewardship, and what it looks like to include our kids in meaningful ways within our home. You’ll be encouraged by their passion for hard work, family togetherness, and keeping the Lord as the center of it all. Guest Info: Brent and Katie Kruithof Site: https://www.yeahbabygoods.com/ Sponsor Info: Yeah Baby Goods Code: MISFORMAMA Bible References: Romans 5:3-5 Psalm 127 Deuteronomy 6:6-8 1 Corinthians 10:31 2 Peter 1:3 Matthew 5:30-32 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
If you feel the call to homeschool and don’t know where to start, are on the fence, or just feel curious about the movement, you’ll want to listen to Monica and I chat about her new book, Becoming Homeschoolers. We also chat about our mutual love for fitness + motherhood from the perspective of moms with older/graduated kids and encourage you in practical ways to stay the course. I know this conversation will be a blessing to homeschoolers, but there’s plenty for all moms. Guest Info: Monica Swanson Site: https://monicaswanson.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicaswanson_/?hl=en Podcast: https://www.google.com/gasearch?q=monica%20swansonpodcast&tbm=&source=sh/x/gs/m2/5 Sponsor Info: Yeah Baby Goods Code: MISFORMAMA Site: https://www.yeahbabygoods.com/ Bible References: Galatians 6:9 Esther 4:14 Proverbs 31:27 Proverbs 31:15-31 John 17:9-26 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
This week, we chat solo parenting with older kids, adjusting expectations, and the art of transitioning back to a two-parent household whenever our husbands are home. Plus, I give you a (perhaps) surprising perk to solo parenting at the end as a takeaway. Enjoy! Sponsor Info: Yeah Baby Goods Code: MISFORMAMA Bible References: Romans 5:3-5 John 16:33 Romans 8:28 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
One of the FAQs I receive weekly in DMs is: “How do you handle solo-parenting when your husband is gone?” And while I know that everyone’s solo-parenting circumstances are different, there are some core principles that can help shift your mindset from “woe is me!” (been there) to “I’ve got this” (in Christ’s strength). Is so important to actively look for ways to thrive rather than simply survive! I share some of the things that have helped me most in this episode, and I’ll talk more about ways the Lord has grown my maturity + resourcefulness in this area in part 2. Enjoy! Sponsor Info: Site: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com/ Code: misformama Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Activated Charcoal and Grape Juice Blog Rhythms Podcast Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
As we approach Mother’s Day (in the U.S.), I pray this brief episode will be an encouragement to stay the course for those who are in or for the long haul and a balm for those who are hurting this week. You are in my prayers. Sponsor Info: Site: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com/ Code: misformama Bible References: Philippians 4:6 Psalm 34:18 Jeremiah 29:11 Matthew 5:44 Ephesians 4:32 Matthew 6:12 James 1:17 Psalm 27:13 James 4:14 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
Ever wondered how to create an environment of camaraderie, family connection, and meaningful discussion in your home? Continuing the theme from our conversation in the last episode with the Voetbergs, Jennifer Pepito shares her wisdom gleaned from years of investing intentionally in her own family, but she also shares mistakes and the grace the Lord has offered her in her imperfections. Be encouraged that you don’t have to “get everything right” to establish important traditions that become sacred and cherished in your family—even if none were passed down to you by your own parents! Guest Info: Site: habitsforasacredhome.com Shop: thepeacefulpress.shop Instagram: Jennifer - The Peaceful Press Sponsor Info: Site: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com/ Code: misformama Bible References: Ephesians 6:4 Deuteronomy 6:7c Hebrews 12:2 James 4:6 1 Kings 1:6 Psalm 139:23-24 2 Corinthians 10:5 2 Corinthians 12:9 Isaiah 64:6 1 Corinthians 3:6-9 Galatians 6:9 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram YouTube Facebook
Ep. 63: Passing Down the Good (A Chat with Elisha and Katie Voetberg) In a world that champions airing every bit of trauma/bad strategies passed down from parents, it’s rare (and refreshing!) to encounter young families who are, instead, holding with the positive traditions of their origin families and being intentional to praise the good (while acknowledging the not-so-good). Elisha and Katie Voetberg (who own/run our sponsor company, Voetberg Music Academy!) are doing just that—choosing to recognize + pass down the positive practices they were taught without turning a blind eye to the common pitfalls we all face as parents. They discuss what they love about their upbringings as members of larger-than-culturally-normal families. They share strategies for being intentional + wise with stewarding time with children + spouses. And they speak with maturity beyond their years that they credit to having parents who trusted them enough to apologize + pivot when things weren’t working. I know you’ll be encouraged + energized by this conversation! Guest Info: Site: nowthatwereafamily.com Sponsor Info: Site: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com/ Code: misformama Bible References: Matthew 22:37 Genesis 1:28 1 Samuel 16:7 Matthew 28:16 James 3:16 Colossians 3:23 Proverbs 31 Titus 2 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Ever walked into a public library with your children, only to hurry them past the displays in the kids’ section because they’re almost all focused on promoting one secular agenda or another? You’re not alone. Choosing good literature for our kids--especially in light of the blatant bias many librarians proudly display--can be a challenging task in our current cultural climate. In this episode, Korie Johnson from Good Book Mom tells us all about how we, as Christian parents, can build relationships with our local library and its leaders in order to make an impact both on the books they promote and on the individuals themselves. You’ll be encouraged by her straightforward approach to choosing quality children’s literature (it doesn’t all have to be explicitly Christian!) and also her practical suggestions for how to interact with your library community to enact change. Korie has lots of great resources on her website where she vets and reviews hundreds of books so we don’t have to! Guest Info: Instagram Facebook Site: https://goodbookmom.com/ Sponsor Info: Site: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com/ Code: misformama Bible References: 1 Corinthians 10:31 Ephesians 6:12 Deuteronomy 6:6-8 Ephesians 5:9 Matthew 5:16 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
“Child free” is a phrase that populates comment sections on social media, Reddit threads, news articles, and more. It’s more than a little trendy to at least entertain the idea of forgoing having children altogether. But is it biblical? I sit down with my good friend, Jennifer Flanders from Flanders Family Home Life, chat about the biblical implications of a child-free lifestyle. We also chat all things birth control and what it looks like to live a surrendered life before the Lord—in every area, including, but not limited to, our fertility. Jennifer is one of my favorite humans on the planet, and I know you’ll appreciate her wisdom! Sponsor Info: Site: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com/ Code: misformama Bible References: Ephesians 5:15 Psalm 127 Psalm 128 Genesis 1:28 Proverbs 3:5-6 1 Corinthians 7:2 Matthew 6:19-21 Proverbs 16:9 Jeremiah 29:11 1 Corinthians 7 Genesis 38 Luke 23:29 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
In part one of this topic, we unpacked why “overstimulation” is such a commonly used term—especially in motherhood—these days. In this episode, we take a deeper look at some of the ways we might contributing to our own overwhelm. Because sometimes, all those “tabs” left open in our brain, driving us nuts, are the results of too many bad yeses and not enough good knows. Self-awareness and the ability to admit when we have gotten into bad habits or failed to heed wise advice are both crucial to reclaiming our mental peace in a way that honors God. Sponsor Info: Site: https://www.summit.org/ Code: mama24 Bible References: Ecclesiastes 1:9 Ephesians 5:15-16 Matthew 12:36 Proverbs 20:24 Isaiah 26:3-4 1 Peter 3:15 Matthew 11:29-30 Hebrews 4:9-10 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Have you ever credited your frustration or overwhelm in a particular situation to “overstimulation?” If so, join the club! “Overstimulation” seems to be the word for mothers on social media (and many in-person interactions too). And it’s easy to understand why with so many things grabbing for our attention on top of a need to love and care for our families well. The good news is there is hope in the midst of the overwhelm, and we don’t have to be slaves to the things that make our brains feel like they’re full of bees. In this episode we’ll talk about the reality of feeling overstimulated (it’s not all in your head!) but also tackle practical ways to combat it with both compassion and grit. Be encouraged that “overstimulated” is not where you have to stay, friends! Sponsor Info: Site: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com/ Code: misformama Bible References: Romans 6:1 Romans 8:37 2 Corinthians 12:7 1 Peter 5:8 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
This conversation will be such an encouragement to any mama (or woman!) with a dream in her heart but no idea how to steward it well for the glory of God. In this episode, Lyndsey Mimnagh from Treehouse Schoolhouse chats with me about everything from personality traits (how much do they matter?) to working backwards from your end goal to make it a reality (it works!) to DIY house-building (we’ve both been there) to homeschooling (same) and much more! I know you will be encouraged by her stories of the Lord’s faithfulness to prepare her for the “next right thing” and her honesty about the imperfect process along the way! Guest Info: Lyndsey Mimnagh Instagram: @treehouse_schoolhouse Site and Shop: treehouseschoolhouse.com 15% off any purchase in her shop with the code MISFORMAMA15(15% off their total order. One use per customer. Cannot be combined with other promos.)Expires on 9/13/24 Sponsor Info: Site: https://www.voetbergmusicacademy.com/ Code: misformama Bible References: Philippians 4:13 Psalm 1:3 Esther 4:14 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
“Masculinity” might be one of the most hot-button words in our current culture. And one of the most misunderstood. Thankfully, my friend, Durenda Wilson, mama to eight, including five young men, is sharing her wisdom and experience with to help us understand the truth about raising boys. With humor, compassion, and practical action steps, she explains how important it is to parent our sons with intentionality and care for the unique ways that God has made them. Check out her new book, Raising Boys to Men, and don’t forget to take advantage of exclusive pre-order offers today! Guest Info: The Durenda Wilson Podcast https://www.durendawilson.com/ Bible References: Deuteronomy 6:6-8 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Summit Ministries Sign-Up Discount Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Have you ever found yourself nervous to announce a pregnancy, discuss parenting philosophies with a friend, or discuss school choices when your mother-in-law? Why? Because you’re afraid of what they’ll say! If so, you are far from alone. It’s so hard not to let other people’s opinions on the choices we make for our families affect our confidence in them. And yet, when it comes to issues that aren’t specifically addressed by Scripture, we have so much freedom in Christ to pray, seek wise counsel, confer with our spouses, and “do the next right thing” as unto the Lord—even if it’s not a conclusion our neighbor/cousin/mom/sister/friend would have reached. Be encouraged that the Lord gives wisdom and peace to His people as they diligently seek Him. Bible References: John 15:13 Colossians 3:17 1 Peter 2:23 Romans 12:5 Galatians 5:1 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Post About Announcing Pregnancy Without Shame Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
I regularly get asked if any of my children have a diagnosis with which we must grapple. While the answer is no, I do have firsthand knowledge of both the struggles and the joys of having a child with special needs through my friendship with Lindsay Long, my closest friend, business partner, and the illustrator of both M Is for Mama and Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad, and her daughter, Evie. In this episode, we talk about the grief that comes along with realizing that your child may never achieve some of the same milestones as other children with fewer limitations. We discuss the biblical principle of true contentment and the “joy set before us” in the privilege of pouring ourselves out for our children, regardless of disability. And we declare God’s goodness in hardship, even while acknowledging that we don’t always like the circumstances in which He has placed us. I have no doubt that Lindsay’s insights and experiences will be a blessing and an encouragement to all who listen—but especially to those who walk the sometimes lonely road of special needs parenting. Proverbs 27:17 Psalm 139 John 12:24-26 Matthew 5:39 Romans 12:15-17 Philippians 4:11-12 John 3:30 Philippians 4:13 1 Corinthians 3:11 Isaiah 25:8 Romans 8:28 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Heidi St. John—homeschool mom to eight, grandmother, author, and speaker—joins me on this episode to chat all things motherhood: finding our giftings, using them for the Lord + our families, and, yes, being willing to accept help. Because motherhood (as with most things) is best done in community! Join us for a lively conversation about how “bad days don’t make moms”—in fact, they often give us an oppportunity to repent and model asking forgiveness to our kids. You’ll be encouraged to keep showing up and serving God even when you fail. What a gift! Women’s Bible Study w Heidi St. John bravebooks.com Podcast: Off the Bench (Apple Podcasts) - (Spotify) - (YouTube) The Mouse and the Sea - (Brave Books) - (Amazon) Bible References: Matthew 12:30-31 Matthew 25:40-45 Colossians 3:23 Exodus 14 James 1:6 Titus 2 Proverbs 27:17 1 John 4:4 Romans 8:1 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Tales of the Kingdom Link Milk and Honey Jewelry Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
It would almost take living as a full-on Luddite to not know something about Taylor Swift. The sheer volume of interest, speculation, online posts, and photographs of just one person exemplifies our culture’s propensity to “obsess” over celebrities. One thing that sets “T Swift” apart is a dogged loyalty to/approval of/fascination with her: music, life choices, and person as a whole. And this includes many Christians who include themselves in the ranks of enthusiastic “Swifties.” In this episode, we examine what it looks like, from a biblical perspective, to be devoted first and foremost to Jesus rather than *any* pop culture icon, no matter how much nostalgia and warm fuzzy feelings arise when we think about listening to their music/watching their movies/living vicariously through their publicly broadcasted lives. This is not a bash on Taylor Swift but rather a call to every Christian to honestly examine to whom our affections are most devoted and by whom we are most influenced—Jesus and His holy Word…or the world. Here is the link to Summit Ministries, don't miss out on the $200 off tuition with the code MAMA24! Romans 1:25 Matthew 6:21 Romans 12:2 Psalm 119:105 Romans 3:23 Romans 3:10-12 2 Timothy 4:7-8 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Tales of the Kingdom Link Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
When you hear the word “deconstruction,” what comes to mind? An honest examination of biblical truth? An automatic rejection of it? Something in between? In this episode, my friend, Alisa Childers—author, respected apologist, and, herself, a survivor of the deconstruction movement—does a great job of speaking to the need for defining our terms. After all, if nobody knows exactly what the term “deconstruction” means, it’s going to be impossible to bring it before the light of Scripture and examine it truthfully. Alisa and I also discuss why it’s important to understand this movement as moms who are charged with teaching our children God’s Word and encouraging them to seek truth over cultural trends. Be encouraged that clarity in this area is not only possible but crucial to combatting the cultural lies that tell us we know better than God. Guest Info: Alisa Childers: Instagram Facebook Youtube Podcast Bible References: Ephesians 4:14 Exodus 12 Ephesians 5:26 1 Thessalonians 5:21 Romans 11:34-36 Proverbs 12:16 Proverbs 6:24 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Milk and Honey Jewelry Better Than Anything Cake Foundation Worldview Curriculum Alisa Childers' Books: The Deconstruction of Christianity - Another Gospel - Live Your Truth and Other Lies Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
One of the more common buzz phrases I’m encountering on the Internet is the term “church hurt.” The problem, as with many popular phrases, is the true meaning of “church hurt” is hard to nail down, meaning anything from true abuse of power and spiritual neglect to a rightful accountability check of sin. Not only that, but since we are called to look not only to our own needs but also to the needs of others (Phil. 2:4), the intensely personal narrative surrounding church hurt often becomes more about the person who experienced (real or perceived) injury than it is about the God who heals every sorrow and is so near the brokenhearted. To further complicate issues, many in the church hurt movement seem determined to lump the entire entity of “church” in with what they deem a broken system, rotten to its core. And so, we must examine all of these claims in the light of Scripture. Is all church hurt equal? Should every claim be taken at face value? Is there still such a thing as a healthy church? We address all of these questions (and more) in light of Scripture in today’s episode. Bible References: Micah 6:8 Psalm 1:1 Philippians 2:3-8 Matthew 18 Matthew 18:21-22 Hebrews 10:23-25 Philippians 4:13 Romans 12:15 2 Corinthians 5:17 Romans 6:23 John 14:15 Jeremiah 17:9 Luke 6:45 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Milk and Honey Jewelry Better Than Anything Cake Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
One of my favorite things as a mom is figuring out traditions that our whole family will cherish for years. Our birthday traditions have evolved since we had our first almost 18 years ago until we have them down to, if not a science, a day of predictably fun (but also customizable) customs that everybody loves. If you’re looking for inspiration for creating traditions of your own, looking to switch things up a bit, or just needing encouragement that the effort to establish lasting traditions that will knit your family’s hearts closer together is worth it, then this episode is for you! Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Milk and Honey Jewelry Better Than Anything Cake Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
When it comes to the topic of “things Christians do” or “organized church,” it’s a bit of a free-for-all. You don’t have to be kind. You don’t have to be truthful. And you don’t have to take into consideration how making Christians/the church the butt of all your jokes affects the way the outside world looking in thinks about either/both (especially on social media). Except we do. Scripture makes it very clear that 1. The Christian church is the bride of Christ (and that’s a big deal) and 2. We will be held accountable for “every careless word” we speak—Matt. 12:36 (and that’s a huge deal!). Throw in Psalm 1, which urges us to avoid mockery and scoffing, and you’ve got a pretty compelling argument for treating this topic with the careful and honest handling it deserves. Does “the church” have problems? Yes. Will Christians fail us and do wrong things? Also, yes. But that’s not where the story ends, and I want to approach this series with the goal of bringing our attitudes and thoughts about church under the Lordship of Jesus Christ—just like we do (or should do) everything else. Bible References: Genesis 1:26-28 John 1:1 Psalm 1 Ephesians 4:15 1 Corinthians 9:22 Ephesians 4:2 Hebrews 10:25 James 3:10 Philippians 4:8 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Milk and Honey Jewelry Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
For those who watch via YouTube or Spotify, we apologize, but due to technical issues, there is no video available this week. We did it, friends! We made it through 2023 by the grace of God! And boy, do I mean that! There have been many moments this year that felt like too much, but tor Christ’s power at work in my life. I’m guessing you can relate! From book launching to our whole-family European adventure to a house flood to living in a rental for months while we renovate our entire downstairs, the Lord has shown Himself faithful time and time again. Hope you’re encouraged (and at least moderately entertained) by this look back at some of the more memorable moments of 2023. Also, CHEERS to one whole year of podcasting! I’ve so enjoyed getting to share with you and can’t wait to do it again next year! (AKA: Next week). P.S. I mention the “flower mama” sweatshirt I’m wearing in the episode. Here’s the link, as promised. Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Milk and Honey Jewelry Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
We're rounding out our Christmas series with a (mostly) lighthearted round of "Abbie's Favorite Christmas Things." This is such a special time of year to me, but, if I'm honest, this Christmas season hasn't felt particularly festive or fun, so this was a great exercise in reminding myself of the many ways that Christmas brings joy--the ultimate of which is the tiny baby who came to this world to save us from our sins! A quick reminder that, if you know someone in need who could use practical help this Christmas season, you can nominate them by sending me a message at abbie@misformama.net Bible References: Luke 2:10 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Milk and Honey Jewelry Shortbread Kiss Cookie Recipe Earthey Tinctures - Use the code MISFORMAMA for 10% off first order Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
It’s all well and good to give ideas for fun holiday activities and ways to bring the Christmas "magic." Family traditions are wonderful, and I will always advocate for their importance. But what about those for whom Christmas is a genuine struggle? What about the years when you’re just not "feeling it." There is hope in Christ for those who find themselves in this place. In fact, it is the whole hope of Christmas. Be encouraged, friends, that, even when you feel alone, the Savior, who came as a baby to grow up to manhood and sacrifice Himself for the sins of the world is by your side. Bible References: Romans 5:8 Matthew 8:26 Hebrews 13:5 1 Peter 5:7 Matthew 5:26-30 Philippians 4:7 2 Corinthians 10:5 1 Corinthians 1:9-11 Ephesians 4:6-10 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Milk and Honey Jewelry Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
One of the primary arguments I’ve heard against skipping Santa is that doing so will rob kids of the “magic of Christmas.” The thing is: Nowhere in the Bible are we exhorted to do things for our kids that make them feel “magical” (in the sense of euphoria or warm, fuzzy feelings). But we are encouraged to “rejoice in the Lord” and to “give thanks in all circumstances.” And one way to do that in the Christmas season is by establishing family traditions that spark joy and fun and generosity. In this episode, I discuss some of the specific things our family does to truly enjoy each other and praise God for His goodness during the Christmas season AND ways that we strive to bless others as well! Hopefully, you’ll get some good ideas and be encouraged that there are so many good + wholesome + joy-filled ways to celebrate Christ’s birth. P.S. One thing we’ve done that I forgot to mention is the Jesse Tree. Such a great tradition! Bible References: Psalm 119:105 Matthew 12:34 Matthew 19:16-22 Luke 19:10 Matthew 6:21 Matthew 12:28-34 Zephaniah 3:17 Psalm 34:8 Philippians 4:4-8 Psalm 100:1 Colossians 3:17 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Milk and Honey Jewelry Episode About Allowance and Chores Samaritan's Purse Gift Catalog September & Co. Ruth Chou Simons Emmanuel Cross Formed Kids Treehouse Schoolhouse Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Every year, somewhere between October 1st and December 25, I start getting the same question on repeat: “Does your family ‘do Santa?’ Why or why not?” I tackle this question, and the why behind our answer, in this episode. As always, the goal in every discussion of whether or not to adhere to a particular tradition must be: Does it bring glory to God in the way that we practice it (if we do)? I also discuss three biblically sound questions to ask yourself as you approach the Santa conversation that may help clarify how you approach your family’s take on this. I hope you find this way of addressing “the Santa talk” edifying, encouraging, and helpful! Bible References: Colossians 3:17 Deuteronomy 6:6-8 John 1:1 James 1:6 Genesis 3:1 James 4:17 Exodus 32 Matthew 10:28 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Have you ever felt like you have nothing to be grateful for? That your circumstances are too miserable to bear and that any attempt at thankfulness would be faking it? The Bible makes it clear that it is God’s will for us to practice continual thankfulness, and yet it also gives us lots of room for grief and sadness when life is so hard. Be encouraged that it is really is possible to honor God with our gratitude, even when we feel too weak to praise Him and even when our emotions feel the opposite of thankful. In this episode, we talk about a perspective shift that helps us to view gratitude rightly and to view even the most frustrating people in our lives through a lens of thankfulness. Praise God that He honors even our stumbling toward obedience in this area with the ability to keep going on the narrow path, even when we don’t feel like we have the strength to take another step. Bible References: Psalm 127:3 Lamentations 3:22-23 Romans 6:1-2 Ephesians 4:2 2 Corinthians 10:5 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 1 Peter 2:23 Deuteronomy 31:6 2 Corinthians 9:11 Romans 7:19-25 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
None of us have endless wells of energy. We all hit walls (of exhaustion or burnout or overwhelm) during certain seasons. Sometimes, it can be hard to know where our limited resources are best spent in particularly busy periods. Thankfully, we can turn to God for wisdom and rely on biblical principles to help us navigate the tricky waters of time management, learning to say no, and leaning into challenging seasons with the knowledge that we are right where God wants us to be! Organifi Red Juice (Use code: MISFORMAMA for 20% off) Bible References: Matthew 5:37 Judges 11:38-40 James 1:5 2 Corinthians 12:9-11 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
In a culture that assures us that the only way to be an “authentic” mom is to focus almost exclusively on the challenges and negative aspects of motherhood, it’s easy to fall into the trap of being afraid to speak out about the flip side of the coin: the truth that the joys and benefits of motherhood abound if only we have eyes to see them and the courage to proclaim them. Be encouraged, friends, that there is so much good in being thankful (just as we’re exhorted by Scripture), even in the midst of trials, and that rejoicing in good mothering days, far from being inauthentic, can be a beacon of light for other moms doing their best to keep their heads above water in the stormy seas of mothering struggles shared in the name of “telling it straight.” Bible References: Galatians 6:9 Philippians 4:4 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Last week, we talked about the view of motherhood that posits that the only way to be “real” is to expose the hard parts of being a mom and name them one-by-one. This week, we talk about how motherhood, far from stripping us of our true selves or primary identity, can be a wonderful avenue for helping us exercise our God-given talents + abilities in ways that honor Him, serve our families, and bring us great fulfillment as well. I share examples from my own journey as a mother, but as always, the goal is never to do things “Abbie-style” (or insert any other name) but instead to ground everything we do in the Word of God and His principles for life that will never change or lead us astray. Bible References: 2 Corinthians 10:5 Proverbs 16:9 Proverbs 31 Philippians 4:13 Matthew 11:28 John 16:33 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Have you ever encountered a social media post that assures you that, unlike all the "other moms," they are going to tell you the truth about motherhood--and the truth is that "it sucks" and robs you of your identity? Maybe you've felt a tug of relatability? Or maybe you've felt your spirit revolt against what seems to be hopelessness and despair? No matter your response, be encouraged that God is not surprised by your struggles in motherhood (or anything else), and there IS always hope in Christ and a purpose in the growing pains we all experience as moms--even if only to draw us closer to the one who never leaves us or forsakes us. Bible References: Jeremiah 17:9 2 Peter 1:3 2 Corinthians 5:17 John 1:12 Philippians 4:13 Job 13:15-18 Job 1:21 Psalm 127:13 1 Corinthians 10:31 Matthew 16:24 John 16:33 James 1:17 Hebrews 13:8 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Today's episode is a little different, but it's what I felt the Lord nudging me to say as I've received a number of panicked DMs asking for encouragement and reassurance in the midst of the uncertain and even tragic circumstances that so many around the world are enduring. Remember, friends, that we were never called to either a) bury our heads in the sand and pretend that suffering doesn't exist OR b) immerse ourselves only in doom and gloom and forget that we have hope in the Lord and an obligation to keep loving God and loving our neighbor. Also, prayer is powerful. I hope this episode brings you fresh perspective and vision! Bible References: Ecclesiastes 1:9 Matthew 24:12 Matthew 25 Philippians 1:21 Matthew 24:6-13 Ephesians 6:10-18 Galatians 6:9 John 16:33 Philippians 2:3-4 Jeremiah 24:15 Psalm 119:105 James 5:16 Matthew 18:20 1 Thessalonians 5:17 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Shaun and I got the incredible opportunity to visit a "bucket list" locale "for my birthday" (I really did have a birthday while there, but it was mostly just a fun excuse to take a trip during a gorgeous time of year). It was one of the most enjoyable and relaxing trips that I can remember in recent years, and the scenery was beyond beautiful. (Special thanks to my nice parents for staying with our kids and keeping everything running smoothly at home.) I had so many requests for a trip recap + itinery + places we ate that I decided to ask Shaun to join me for a chat about all things Banff (or at least all things Banff that we experienced), and he said yes! We hope you enjoy and get some inspiration for trips of your own (whether to Banff or not). Restaurants mentioned: Jerusalem Shawarma Farm and Fire Brazen Sky Bistro Bare Bistro Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Friends! This episode was so fun to record. My friend, Emily Morrow (AKA: Really Very Crunchy) drove all the way from Kentucky with her family to stay with us for a weekend to celebrate at my Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad book launch party. While she was here, we sat down to chat about all things internet fame (hers, not mine), DMs, the origin of her account, finding and making lasting friendships, motherhood, Emily’s new book, and so much more. Is she really very crunchy? Does she mouth tape? What was she really thinking when I slathered her son in lavender oil after he got into his first ever bed of fire ants? (Ugh, Texas, c’mon!) You’ll never know until you listen! Find Emily on Instagram at @reallyverycrunchy (she also posts to Youtube and Tiktok under the same name). You can also pre-order her new book here! Bible References: 1 Peter 4:8 Philippians 2:3 Ephesians 4:2 Matthew 21:9 Luke 23:21 Ecclesiastes 1:9 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
If you’ve ever wondered how someone else “does it all,” I’ve got a spoiler alert for you: They don’t. No one does (definitely me included). Plus, I truly believe there’s a better question we could be asking (that I share in this episode). And I chat about the Lord’s provision for help that has enabled me to do more in this season (without feeling like such a Lone Ranger) than I have in the past. Yes, there are some people that have more on their plate than others, and there are some seasons that allow for less/more capacity. But as long as we are more concerned with the Lord’s will and His perfect timing than with any desire to replicate someone else’s “system,” we can be truly content in the “good works that He has prepared in advance for us.” Be encouraged that, as you seek the Lord, He has you right where you need to be, doing exactly the right tasks you should be doing. Bible References: Colossians 3:23 Philippians 4:12-13 Romans 12:15 2 Corinthians 2:19 Psalm 28:7 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Ever been less-than-pleased with the body you see in the mirror? I've been there (in some ways, am still there at the moment). I would wager that, between pregnancy body changes, unrealistic cultural beauty standards (hello, air-brushing), and a tendency to be overly critical of our appearances, most of us women can relate to wishing we could tweak a thing or two about the way we look. But is that how God views us? If we look to Scripture, we quickly discover that, rather than swinging to one extreme or the other of either self-indulgence or vain self-obsession, we are to "offer our bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God." (Romans 12:1) In other words, it's way less about how we look (a lesson I am constantly learning/relearning as my body ages) and way more about how we love God and love others with the resources (including the body) He's given us. I am still a work in progress in every area, including this one, but, as always, I'm so grateful the Lord is so gracious not to leave us where He finds us. Bible References: Psalm 139:14 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 1 Corinthians 10:31 Ephesians 4:23 2 Corinthians 10:5 Philippians 4:11-13 Colossians 3:17 Philippians 4:7 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
If hard is not the same thing as bad, does that then mean all hard things are good? NOPE. In this episode, we chat about when hard really is bad, how the Lord can still teach us and shape us through those things, and when to “abandon” the hard because God is clearly offering a different path forward. Also, a super exciting update from our family that perfectly exemplifies the Lord’s gracious provision in the midst of the challenging aftermath of our downstairs house flooding. Pssttt…I also have a chapter about this in Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad. For our video audience, we apologize, but there is no video this week. Also the audio is a bit rougher than usual, we’ll be back to usual programming next week! Bible References: Romans 5:3-5 Isaiah 65:17 Romans 8:28 John 3:16 Romans 6:23 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama Meal Plan Sign-Up Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
In a therapy-centric culture, it can be hard to differentiate between biblical truth and secular psychology (some aspects of which are at complete odds with each other). Anytime I speak to the importance of addressing this phenomenon from a biblical perspective, I get one of two responses: 1. “Thank you for speaking up,” or 2. “Please don’t talk about this. You’ll keep people from getting the help they need.” So, which is it? Is it possible to question the “everybody needs therapy” narrative and examine it in the light of Scripture without hindering those who really do need professional counseling? To help answer that question, I invited my friend, Amy Waters, who is a Bible-Believing professional counselor and owner of her own wellness practice called Living Well, on the show to discuss things like the overuse of the Three Ts (therapy, triggers, and trauma), what it looks like to shine the light of Capital T Truth on them, and how we can discern if we need therapy or just need to find better community. I love her compassionate, measured, and, above all, biblical approach to this topic, and I think everyone who listens to this conversation will benefit greatly from the back-and-forth between two women who love the Lord first and really want to see women (and everyone else!) thrive in their God-given callings, however that can best be achieved in a biblical way. P.S. I mention in this episode that Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad comes out next week, BUT, that’s actually THIS week. It released yesterday, and is available just about everywhere books are sold! Bible References: Colossians 3:17 2 Peter 1:3 John 11:38-44 Proverbs 27:6 James 3:16 Matthew 12:34 Isaiah 28:27-29 Proverbs 25:2 Deuteronomy 31:6 Hebrew 6:19 Matthew 24:13 Romans 5:4 1 Corinthians 3:19 Romans 12:15 Psalm 34:8 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Goodness gracious, friends! If you want to have a challenging week, have the audacity to publish a book called Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad. I can't tell you how many people have said, "It sure does seem like you're under spiritual attack right now, Abbie," and I suppose I have to agree, since the Bible clearly says that our fight is not against flesh and blood but against the spiritual realm. Still, the Lord has been so gracious to provide moments of respite and opportunities to recognize his mercies in the midst of the hard of back pain and scary episodes with wasp stings, and major publishing mess-ups, and, yes, an entire downstairs flooding so badly we are now living in a gutted kitchen. Even though some will call it "toxic positivity," I'm declaring my gratitude that the Lord has given our family a peace that truly passes all understanding through our current inconvenient, and sometimes frustrating, living situation. Be encouraged, friends. The Lord has not forgotten you in the midst of your struggles. He has a plan and a purpose for even this. Bible References: Ephesians 6:2 Ephesians 4:15 Philippians 4:7 Psalm 27:13 Matthew 10:30 Hebrews 13:5 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Today, we're wrapping up Our Grand European Adventure recaps! This one's a bit of grab bag as I share some of the challenges (expected and otherwise), joys, and a few tips and tricks sprinkled in. Let's just say toddler twins were a handful...often literally. And we knew they would be. But it's impossible to truly plan for the level of emotional extremes you'll experience when you've got a pair of jetlagged toddlers. But the high moments far outweighed the hard ones, and I make sure to share a few core memories I'll never forget. (Oh, and the town I couldn't remember that some said we should have gone to instead of Pisa is Sienna!) Enjoy, friends! Also, be sure to check out the fantastic (hand-drawn! affordable!) educational printables from my sponsor, Arrows and Applesauce. She has resources for everything from Bible to geography to early letters and numbers and so much more! Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide Flanders Family's Free Flight to Europe Europe Trip Backpacks: Tobiq + Ebags (Adult) + Ebags (Junior) Normandy 16th Century Castle AirBnB Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Have I got a treat for you, friends! I talked Shaun into coming on today to share with us some tips and tricks for how to plan a trip like this. Most of his input is the first half of the episode, but he was gracious to hang around for the second half as well, and we had a blast reminiscing and sharing some of our anecdotes, packing tips, ticket-booking hacks, and more! I hope you'll find this episode both entertaining and informative. But sure to let Shaun know in the reviews how much you loved having his input into this episode so we can convince him to come back again soon! Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide Flanders Family's Free Flight to Europe Europe Trip Backpacks: Tobiq + Ebags (Adult) + Ebags (Junior) Normandy 16th Century Castle AirBnB Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
In May, 2023, our family had the incredible privilege of taking a 45-day trip to Europe--the redo of a previously attempted trip that Covid killed. In this episode, we’re chatting about how the trip came about, some of the hiccups we faced in the months leading up to it, a bit of our itinerary, and how the Lord orchestrated everything so perfectly to make it a literal trip of a lifetime. I also share some of my favorite moments, as well as a low moment or two. Oh, and a buffalo. But you’ll have to listen to find out what that is! Stay tuned for next week when we chat more about OGEA (see title of the this episode if you’re confused ;)). Bible References: James 4:15 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide Balloon company website Anniversary Restaurant: Abendrestaurant Holzerstubn Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Last week, we talked about the fact that we--not the government or the church or public education--are responsible for the well-rounded education of the children that have been gifted to our care by God. This week, we continue the discussion with the "why" behind our family's choice to home school, as well as some background on my own homeschool experience growing up. Be encouraged (but also sobered), moms and dads, that whatever schooling choices the Lord leads you to, it is you who must give an account before the Lord for what you have done to steward your children's hearts and guide them toward His ways. We cannot save our children or keep them in the narrow way, it's true. But we can do everything in our power (by God's help and grace) to be intentional to point them toward the Way Everlasting. Bible References: 1 Corinthians 1:27 Isaiah 55:8-9 1 Corinthians 3:19 Deuteronomy 6:7 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama: Birth Stories Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Our culture abounds with memes poking fun (or downright mocking) the role of parents--playing up the cluelessness of dads (and moms too) and treating children as a burden to be escaped or, at the very least, outsourced. Not only that, but a rising trend toward the prioritization of the views of "experts" (even if that expertise has been conferred by a course or a degree, rather than experience or extensive research) over the authority of parents makes it clear that, if we don't embrace our God-given role as the primary disciplers of our children, the world is ready and willing to step in. But Scripture makes it very clear that, we, not the government or teachers or experts, are ultimately responsible for our children's well-rounded education. Be encouraged that *you* are best-equipped to parent your unique kiddos well because God is the one who equips you! Bible References: Deuteronomy 6:6-8 Matthew 5:14 1 Corinthians 15:33 Ephesians 6:10-18 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama: Birth Stories Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
"Have you ever had a miscarriage. If so, how did you deal with it?" I've been asked some version of this question for years, and while the simple answer is yes, in this podcast I delve into the way that my stories of loss have helped shape me as a mother and given me empathy for those who have walked the same hard road. Here, you will find space for your grief but also encouragement and hope for your future. Together, we tackle a hard, often hidden, topic with the grace of God and the knowledge that we can "mourn with those mourn" as well as spur each other on toward healing and renewed perspective on the goodness of God. You can also find a blog post I wrote about my first two miscarriages here. Bible references: Psalm 139:13 Matthew 10:31 Matthew 10:30 Psalm 56:8 Isaiah 48:16 Matthew 6:25-36 Romans 8:1 John 8:44 Romans 12:15 1 Thessalonians 5:16 Jeremiah 29:11 1 Peter 5:7 John 13:15 Isaiah 55:8-9 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama: Birth Stories Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Okkkkkk, friends! We are officially down to the very last part of the very last birth story in this series. In this second half of the twinbies' birth story, we'll finally get to the part where they're, you know, born. It's a bit of a winding road, with a major "Wow, Lord! You did that!" moment (or two) at the end. I hope you are encouraged as you listen by the fact that God really is sovereign over and all in all. Enjoy! Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama: Birth Stories Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Well, friends! All good things must come to an end, but as we reach the finale of our birth story series, I'm happy to announce that we're going out with a bang because Titus and Toby's birth was action-packed! Also, it ended up taking me over an hour to tell the story, so I decided to split it into two episodes. Today's is a bit of a cliffhanger (sorry!), but we'll wrap it ALL up next week, so stay tuned! Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama: Birth Stories Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Shiloh’s birth story threw me for a complete loop. Birth anxiety! Panic attacks! A completely unplanned birth location! Yep. We’re bringing all the drama with this one, folks. But through it all runs the incredible thread of God’s sovereign goodness and care for the details of our lives. Enjoy! Bible References: Psalm 119:105 Psalm 23:2 John 6:35 Deuteronomy 31:6 Psalm 56:3 Jeremiah 29:11 James 1:17 1 John 4:16 Philippians 4:8 Links: Shiloh's Birth Story Part 1 & Part 2 M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama: Birth Stories Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Aaaannd, we're back! On this episode, we dive right back into birth stories with a breakdown of Honor's birth, which was...different. Let's just say that several things happened with this birth that I did not expect, while several others were just the same as usual business. That's all I'm going to say here, except that the presence of the Lord was very evident in this birth, and when I say I couldn't have done it with His help, I mean that in the most literal way. Enjoy! Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama: Birth Stories Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Trucking right along with our birth story series brings us to Theo's birth, which was part "dream birth" and part, "Why, Lord??!" If I know anything about birth at this point, it's that it will always be predictably unpredictable. The predictable things for me: going "late" (usually 42 weeks), long hiccupy prodromal periods, and (almost always) 5-7 hours of active labor. The rest? Well, who knows what will happen? The thing I know I can rely on, though: God is good, and He will never leave my side, no matter how convinced I become that I really will be the first women to ever keep her baby in utero forever! Enjoy, friends! P.S. Remember: This is the last podcast I'm releasing until we return from our big European adventure. But I'll jump right back in with birth stories when I return. Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama: Birth Stories Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Ever wondered what it would be like to have identical twin girls at home? Well, wonder no longer because I take you along for the ride of what was, at once, my hardest and best birth. Of course, just because this is how my birth with one set of twins went, that's no guarantee yours would be the same or that my second set was a repeat (hint: it definitely wasn't). That's the beauty of birth--it's completely unique, even within the same mom's different experiences. Enjoy! Bible references: Psalm 73:3 Psalm 34:19 Matthew 6:34 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama: Birth Stories Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Dear readers, if you, like most women, love a good birth story, then this series is for you! I adore birth stories too. The particulars of how a specific baby (or babies!) enter this world are so varied and fascinating, and I always get so excited when one of my friends (either in person or online) shares her story. So, I thought I'd share my stories with you because: 1. I love having them documented and 2. This has been one of the most asked questions on my social media, and, while most of my birth stories are available on my blog in written form, there's just nothing like the spoken word to convey the drama and anticipation of the moment (or MANY MOMENTS, in my case) when you get to meet that sweet new life. Fair warning: I managed to record three different podcasts for this series, which will get us through the end of May, but our family is on an extended trip to Europe and will not return until the week of June 14th, so there will be a brief hiatus until I have a new episode for you. So sorry to leave you hanging, but there was only so much time in which to get everything done before we left. :) Enjoy Installation Number 1! Bible references: Proverbs 4:27 Hebrews 12:2 Genesis 3:16 Philippians 3:14 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide M Is For Mama: Birth Stories Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
One of the most popular narratives I hear in person and on social media is that mothers are victims of their children's "nonsense." I get that perspective and sometimes *feel* the same way, as it can absolutely give major "you're doing this on purpose" vibes when your two-year-old calmly eats his yogurt, only to throw the half-empty container on the ground and SCREECH at the top of his lungs the moment you tell him it's time to leave for church--splattering your dress and the kitchen with white goo in what is obviously a planned attempt to take the last shred of your sanity. The truth: Very young (and even some older) children respond to the impulses (some of them sinful) that drive their urges, and, while they can be incredibly empathetic and sweet, often couldn't care less how their behavior affects us. They're not "bullying" us. We are not at their mercy. HOWEVER. If we fail to recognize our role in investing very intentionally in their instruction, moral growth, knowledge of Scripture + the Lord, and training in both self-discipline and righteousness, chances are, no matter how many times we remind ourselves that "children are a blessing from the Lord, " they still won't feel like they are. The Bible has a fair bit to say about children who bring shame to their parents and are a source of sorrow to their fathers and mothers. And while there's no perfect formula of "this amount of input produces this kind of results," the fact is that, sometimes, our children's not feeling like blessings in a particular moment has way less to do with their bad habits and more to with our lack of fortitude in helping to train them through those struggles. If you're interested in practical steps for making strides toward raising kids you love AND like--kids who are both a blessing because God says so and feel like a blessing because of the efforts you've invested to help them grow in good habits, then this episode is for YOU! Bible references: Matthew 19:14 Psalm 127:3 Psalm 127:5 Proverbs 10:1 Deuteronomy 6:6-8 Matthew 7:14 Ephesians 6:4 1 Kings 1:5-6 2 Samuel 15 2 Samuel 18:33 Job 42:2 1 Kings 1:32-34 Proverbs 19:26 1 Samuel 3:1-8-4:22 1 Samuel 8:3 Genesis 6:5 Proverbs 22:6 Proverbs 15:20 Galatians 6:9 Proverbs 23:22-25 Deuteronomy 31:6 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Fifteen years ago, if you had ever told me I would one day have the opportunity to interview my teen boys on my very own podcast, I'd have responded with 1. What's a podcast? and 2. NO WAY!! And yet, in this very episode, I get the privilege of chatting with Ezra (16) and Simon (15) about the teen years--why parents fear them so much, why they don't have to, and the best ways to make connections with your teens (hint: it's all about paying attention). You're going to love this episode, whether you've reached the teen years yet or are in the thick of them, especially if you don't want to adhere to the current cultural trend of calling teens "the worst." Not only are they not the worst at all (although, they can be challenging and even heartbreaking, sometimes), but there really is the potential for some incredible conversations, fun late nights, and even spiritual sharpening! Be encouraged, mamas! The teen years have their own unique challenges, but they have at least as many joys if you're willing to keep your eyes open for them! Bible references: Proverbs 4:27 Hebrews 12:2 Genesis 3:16 Philippians 3:14 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
If you've ever thought, "I'm too broken for Jesus to love," then this is the episode for you! Because not only is that NOT true, but the Bible makes it so clear that, though we live in a fallen, sin-filled world, the power of God is still at work in His people. We do not have to be slaves to sin or addiction or diagnoses. Instead, we can faithfully (if falteringly) choose the hope and strength of Jesus each day. Does it mean our problems will disappear? Often, no. But neither does it mean that we find our identity in our struggles rather than in the truth that Christ has overcome them already. In this episode, I talk frankly with my friend, Ann Swindell, about our shared struggle with the OCD hair-pulling disorder Trichotillomania. We discuss victory in Christ even while we remain unhealed of this particular affliction. Just like Paul, we ask for this particular thorn in our flesh to be removed but acknowledge that, "if not, He is still good" and "His power is made perfect in our weakness." Be encouraged, friends. God is not surprised by your struggles. And He is more than faithful and capable to give you purpose and joy, even in the midst of your fight with whatever particular trouble you find yourself beset. Bible references: Romans 8:1 Romans 8:31 2 Corinthians 12:7 Matthew 26:39 2 Corinthians 12:9-11 Romans 7:15-16 2 Corinthians 12:10 AMP John 13:15 James 4:14 Romans 12:2 Colossians 2:13-15 Revelation 21:4 Ephesians 2:10 John 1:12 John 15:15 Romans 15:7 Galatians 2:20 Romans 6:1-2 Psalm 56:8 Isaiah 49:16 Matthew 6:8 Matthew 10:29-31 Matthew 5:25-34 1 Corinthians 2:23-30 Mentions: Ann's book about her struggle with trichotillomania and learning to rely on God's goodness: Still Waiting Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Ever wondered what chores (if any) are appropriate for a five-year-old? What about a fifteen-year-old? IS there a biblical precedent for giving our children responsibilities in our home, and what does that look like practically day to day? We'll answer all these questions and more in today's episode about kids' chores, responsibilities, allowances, and privileges in the home. I'll also share our family motto that has helped to keep our eye on what our attitude should be toward others as we do our work "as unto the Lord." In a world that often screams confusing phrases like, "Your child didn't ask to be brought into the world, so he/she shouldn't have to contribute to your home," (huh??), I want to encourage you that giving kids responsibilities, routines, and life skills is one of the kindest and best parenting moves we can make. Not only that, but fostering an others-minded way of thinking leads to kids who are less likely to be lazy and self-obsessed--two things about which the Bible has a lot to say! Bible references: Galatians 6:5-7 Matthew 25:1-13 Proverbs 10:4 Matthew 25:14-30 Proverbs 22:6 2 Thessalonians 3:13 Philippians 2:14 Titus 2:7-8 1 Peter 4:10 Hebrews 12:1 1 Timothy 6:12 2 Corinthians 2:16 Philippians 2:15 James 1:17 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad M Is For Mama Chore Guide Chore Post from Flanders Family Blog (this post also has a bunch of links at the bottom to Jennifer's other posts about chores, including age-appropriate lists) Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Finding kindred spirits to "do life" with is challenging--especially when you throw in all of the mama responsibilities like naptime schedules to coordinate, mealtimes to plan, homeschooling or school drop-offs, and a host of other everyday life details that must be taken into consideration when lining up play dates, dinner with friends, or even a quick chat on the phone (which, if you're anything like me, never happens, so we resort to playing tag with texts or voice memos). It can be so hard to find mama friends that feel life-giving rather than like one more box to tick. Trust me, I know. I prayed for that kind of "fill my cup" community for years before the Lord began to bring along just the right mamas. But hard is not the same thing as bad, and the waiting has made the relationships He's blessed me with all the sweeter. In this episode, we tackle a few core things to do as you pray and look for your "tribe." And we also talk about Grace Girls--the homeschool girls group that I started a couple of years ago that I get asked about all the time. You'll learn: how it came to be, how it works, and how you can start a similar group of your very own, regardless of your school choices or schedule. Bible references: Proverbs 18:24 John 15:13 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
I have such a fun treat for you in this episode--a conversation with one of my favorite people in the whole world: my mama, Beth. In this episode, we talk about why my parents felt the need to "be the change," to fight against generational sins, to pursue multigenerational investment, and to give me and my brother an opportunity to leave a completely different legacy for our own kids. My mom inspires me with her knowledge of the Bible, her perseverance through hardship, her intelligent, analytical mind, her prayer life, and her heart of service to others. I know you will be so challenged and encouraged by her straight-shooting, biblical wisdom. Enjoy! Note: After doing a bit of digging, I couldn't find an exact quote for the John Dewey reference (other than the original Instagram post where I saw it, and that turned out to be a paraphrase as well). Bible references: Romans 2:7 Galatians 6:9 Exodus 20:5 & Deuteronomy 5:9 & Numbers 14:18 Psalm 119:105 2 Corinthians 4:4 Deuteronomy 6:7 Revelation 2 & 3 Galatians 2:20 1 Peter 5:6-7 Matthew 20:16 John 12:25 1 Corinthians 3:19 1 Corinthians 1:18 Philippians 2:6-7 Matthew 5:16 Colossians 3:23 Ephesians 6 Psalm 119:11 Titus 2:4 Matthew 5:2-12 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Pre-Order Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
NOTE: I usually record podcasts when my littles are down for naps and my older kids are gone to our once-a-week homeschool co-op. This episode was recorded while we were all home with a stomach bug, so there's a bit more background noise than usual. Honestly, between the pukey kids and the background squawking, I feel like we managed to set an appropriate tone for an episode called "Hard Is Not The Same Thing as Bad." ; ) Hey, friends! I wrote a new book! And it's available for pre-order! In this episode, I talk about the period in my life during which the Lord impressed the phrase "hard is not the same thing as bad" deep into my soul. (Hint: It wasn't a season of ease.) Since then, I've discovered from the enthusiastic response to my sharing it that it's such a crucial (and biblical!) concept that every mother (and honestly, every Christian) needs to embrace in order to run well the race set out for us by God. Be encouraged that the hard you're experiencing is not random or cruel but instead designed by God to draw you closer to Him and to grow you up in maturity and faith. BONUS: You get an exclusive sneak peek at the introduction of HINTSTAB (funny acronym, I know), which I read during this episode. Mentions: Grape Juice + Activated Charcoal Blog Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad, which is now available for Pre-Order! M Is For Mama Book Bible references: Philippians 4:4 John 16:33 James 4:14 Psalm 144:4 1 Peter 2:24 1 Corinthians 1:28-29 John 1:14 Isaiah 40:11 1 Peter 2:2 Hebrew 13:5 Jeremiah 29:11 Proverbs 14:10, 30 Isaiah 40:10 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Paint & Prose Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Ever looked at another mama and wondered HOW she's managing to do everything she's doing when you seem to only be able to manage the bare minimum? MEEEEE TOO! What I've discovered through the years is, often, when I'm frustrated with where I am and longing for the circumstances that another woman has, I am ignoring some key factors for why the Lord has me where he does. (Because, if we are in Christ, He does everything for our good and His glory.) There is a season for everything in motherhood. And, just like Paul, if we can learn the secret of being content in our circumstances, we can experience so much freedom and purpose right where the Lord has us. Yes, our productivity may be limited in certain periods. No, we won't always be thrilled with the particulars of the season in which God has us. But that's okay! God can still use it! May this episode, which tells a bit of my journey to the stage in life that the Lord has me in currently, encourage you that each season of motherhood has its own unique joys and challenges and that the Lord is never done using and growing and blessing us until we reach glory! Mentions: Book Number 2--Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad, which is now available for Pre-Order! Paint & Prose Bible references: Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 Philippians 2:13 Ephesians 2:10 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
It can be easy to feel like we're drowning in a tidal wave of "mommy snark," negativity toward children, and a fatalistic view of kids that leaves us with little hope but the prospect of their one day leaving the house. Our culture's view of motherhood often focuses almost exclusively on the hard aspects of being a mama (which I will never deny) to the exclusion of the multitude of joys and opportunities for growth that abound as we navigate the tricky waters of toddler tantrums and teen angst (and every age in between). So, what do we do? In this episode, we'll discuss practical ways to not only keep our heads above the water of cultural disdain for children but actually use our knowledge of the Bible (which says that children are a blessing!) to climb out and find ourselves on the firm ground of the knowledge that, though there will be struggles, we know the One who is greater than any challenge we may face with our kids and who loves us (and them!) more than we could possibly imagine. Mentions: The Gentleness Challenge (on Instagram @thegentlenesschallenge and available in ebook form soon) Bible references: Philippians 4:4 Links: M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Toddlers can feel tear-your-hair-out hard, and yet, we are called to be consistent to train them up in the ways of the Lord, just like we do our children of other ages/stages. But how! This episode gives some practical suggestions for how to both speak to the heart of the matter AND help our littles make good choices. Bible references: Ephesians 6:4 Psalm 51:5-7 Links M Is for Mama Penny Reward System Leave a Review for the M is for Mama Show Find Abbie at: Instagram Youtube Facebook
Yes, toddlers are hard. And infuriating. And crazy-making. But they're also adorable and winsome and a great big mirror of our own shortcomings and impatience. I've parented ten toddlers so far, and I can attest to both their challenges and their many rewards. I pray that these two episodes will encourage and equip you to approach your relationships with your toddlers in a biblical way that honors God and bucks our culture's negativity toward children in general but, perhaps especially, very small ones. We all know that just because something (or someone!) is hard does not mean it (he/she) is bad. And toddlers have some of the greatest potential for "hard goods" in every mama's life if she will only reject the narrative that they are something to be "gotten through" instead of an amazing opportunity for growth and joy and "professional development."
Ever looked at the way another mom: dresses her kids, exercises, cooks, cleans her house, schools her children, organizes her pantry, brushes her teeth (okay, hopefully not that last one)...and thought, "That's it! I'm done! I can never measure up!" If so, join the club. Sometimes, it seems like "mom comparison" is an Olympic sport, and we're all competing for a place on the podium. But, my sisters, this should not be! (Imagine me saying this in my best Pauline "letter to the Ephesians" voice.) Yes, we can notice what others are doing so we can glean new ideas, but when we find ourselves in a place of insecurity and resentment, that's a pretty good sign that we've fallen into the pit of comparison, and we need the light of Scripture to guide us back out. The theme verse for this episode was 2 Corinthians 10:12, and I mention that I also have a chapter (two, actually!) about comparison and staying the course in the path that the Lord has for us in the M Is for Mama book (available wherever books are sold.)
Do you struggle to establish and maintain rhythms in your home? To follow through on goals that you make to increase peace and minimize chaos? Then, this episode is for you! I share some basic principles/steps for creating sustainable rhythms as well as share some of the practices that work well for our particular family. I think you will be encouraged that home rhythms are not one-size-fits-all and really are achievable (and oh-so-helpful!) for all kinds of personalities and life circumstances!
One of the biggest stresses of motherhood is sibling fighting. I know from personal experience how frustrating it is to have a home full of strife and bickering. But we are not helpless! Scripture has given us an arsenal of tools to combat our oh-so-human tendencies to squabble and try to get our own way at the expense of peace in our homes. In this episode, we talk about a Christian's response to our culture's assumption that "constant fighting is inevitable" as well as some very practical steps we can take to create a culture of *more* calm and camaraderie in our homes. I mention our family's Penny Reward System as a resource. I also have two whole chapters on promoting sibling love + positive/negative media influences in the M Is for Mama book (available most places books are sold).
One of the most common FAQs that I receive is, "How do you lavish individual attention on ten kids?" Or, conversely, "How do *I* connect well with my kids of any number?" Finding ways to fill our kids' love tanks on a daily basis boils down to one key concept: intentionality. In this episode, I address how we specifically go about making sure all of our kids feel seen and loved in our home and also provide lots of practical (UNcomplicated) suggestions for anyone who's feeling a bit frazzled at the pressure to "get it right" in the kid-connection department. Hint: It's not as tricky as some people make it seem. I mention the Penny Reward System in this episode, in case you want to check it out.
In a world where hyper-sensitivity to even a whiff of offense permeates many social interactions--both in person and online--the Bible calls us to something radical: overlooking offense (being what I term "unoffendable" in this episode). This is not a case for "stuffing emotions" or "ignoring wrongdoing" but rather looking for ways to be an overcomer in Christ rather than a victim of our circumstances or others' unkindness--an invaluable skill not only in motherhood but in every area of our lives!
Every single week on the Q&A I do on Instagram called Whaddya Wanna Know Wednesday (@m.is.for.mama), I get asked some version of the question: "What made you decide to have SO many kids?" Well, here's the podcast I'll be pointing everybody to from here on out! In this episode, I flesh out why Shaun and I felt called--not to a larger-than-average family--but to seek the Lord's will for the number of children we would ultimately have. I also answer questions about about my background (you might be surprised by what you learn!) and the motivations that ultimately culminated in my becoming a "mama of many."
On our first ever episode, I'm explaining how I came to choose the name M is for Mama for my blog, social media, book, and--ultimately--this podcast. I think you'll be encouraged by what the Lord taught me through something as simple as wearing the letter "M" around my neck on a daily basis!
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