It's the season finale of the R Spot, and Iyanla is talking with Kier Gaines, licensed therapist and speaker. They discuss how men can grow into good men and fathers without having that example in childhood. They talk about how men can permit themselves to be vulnerable and why holding their fellow men accountable is so important.    Follow Kier on Instagram and TikTok @kiergaines Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to part two of Iyanla's conversation with Dr. Kris Marsh! This week, they're opening up the conversation and taking questions from the IG live audience. They get into everything from how to redefine family to the financial penalty of being single. Plus, we hear why living trusts and wills are a must-have.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week's episode, Iyanla is joined by professor and author Kris Marsh to get into the hot topics in her book The Love Jones Cohort. They talk about the importance of intersectionality, how class intersects with dating, and why you should stop asking people, "Why are they single?" Tune in next week for part 2 of the conversation! Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of the R Spot, Iyanla is back on IG Live! She listens to guests share the hardest relationship lessons they learned and she provides a little wisdom to help them move forward after their breakups! Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of the R Spot, Iyanla gives her listeners relationship advice live on Instagram. From being too honest to teaching others how to show up for their partner, Iynala has the ingredients for the perfect relationship soup. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In part two of What Good Men Want, Iyanla and Coach Ken extend the conversation around masculinity, male needs, and male perspectives in relationships. Iyanla asks Coach Ken how women can spot when they have a good man, how to make men feel safe, and what are the reasonable and unreasonable expectations both partners should have when they are in a committed relationship.Coach Ken also unpacks his vast knowledge of the nature and reasoning behind cheating and answers the question, is cheating ever justified?  Follow Coach Ken at coachkencanion Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of the R Spot, Iyanla sits down with Coach Ken Canion, a relationship coach, author, TV personality, and creator of the Relationship Academy. Iyanla asks Coach Ken about what good men want from their partners and where men and women are missing each other. In this first part of a two-part series, Iyanla and Coach Ken dissect emasculation, transactional relationships, and what is really expected of men and women in romantic relationships.  Follow Coach Ken at coachkencanion Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We pick up where we left off in our last episode with our guest Tony Porter, author of Breaking Out of the Man Box. Iyanla and Tony continue their wide-ranging conversation and unpack how to keep men accountable, how to foster healthy communication, and how to encourage men to support women in leadership roles. Tony also leans in and helps listeners understand how to reframe the dynamics between men and women, how to prevent violence against women, and highlights the harm that the collective socialization of men has on all genders.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla shares the show today with her incredible guest Tony Porter. Tony Porter is an author, TED talk speaker, and activist working to deconstruct and reconfigure masculinity. This episode is all things men: how they relate to themselves, each other, women, and the larger community. In this episode, Tony highlights the sometimes dangerous and unhealthy aspects of the collective socialization of men.  Tony is working to create a better world where men can voice their feelings, express vulnerability, and redefine what it means to be a man. He offers perspectives and insights for all genders to work together to help redefine masculinity. You can watch his TED Talk here. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Grab a pencil because Ms. Iyanla is taking us to relationship school! Certified relationship coach Kittie Rose joins the show to explore the essential building blocks of strong and lasting relationships. Kittie shares her expertise by identifying harmful relationship behaviors and offering practical, actionable advice based on previous episode topics to help listeners improve their relationships. You can follow Coach Kittie at @kittiejrose Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Iyanla asks callers what their loved ones do that drives them CRAZY? What are the deal breakers and what problems can make the relationship stronger? What must we do to communicate our issues and how do we express them with love?  We have several guests who unpack what drives them crazy, from cleanliness to lack of intimacy and everything in between. Iyanla also points out, to all her guests, what could be driving their loved ones crazy about them because crazy-making behavior is a two-way street.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Like relationships, there are many different types of exit strategies, so Iyanla is giving the topic a second episode. On today's episode, Iyanla and her co-host chat through ways to manage an exit that you can't be completely gone from. Iyanla guides her guest through creating boundaries with an ex when children are involved without creating a false sense of hope with the "wasband." Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When is it time to leave? Many people have a hard time leaving a toxic situation and when they do, they may not have all the resources they need to stay gone. On this episode, Iyanla is joined by two co-host who know a thing or two about creating an exit plan. The group talks about how to recognize when it is time to go and how to leave an abusive partner. Then, Iyanla talks with a guest who is struggling to leave a toxic tenancy.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Iyanla is asking callers who checks the ex? How do you negotiate with your current partner about their involvement with their ex? Or maybe your ex is not respecting the boundaries you set for your new relationship. And what do we do when there are children involved? Our first guest advocates for clear boundaries. The second guest unpacks her current situation with her partner, who is allowing inappropriate boundaries to be crossed, and Iyanla advises on how to communicate her feelings. Our final guest tells Iyanla how she once had to check her partner's ex and how the ex responded. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, we are talking all about dealbreakers & boundaries in relationships. Iyanla and her callers talk about how to confront a dealbreaker and what to do when you are not feeling respected by your partner. From lying to sexual incompatibility and even illegal activity, Iyanla helps her callers navigate through it all.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The stew is bubbling! In the second part of the good girls and bad girls series, Iyanla and her guests get right into it. Damon "Bware" Vanzant is immediately put on the hot seat: would he marry a former bad girl? While Coach Stormy Wellington talks about doing the work to reform and find her feminine energy so that she can show up as the best version of herself for her partner. Lastly, the group tackles submission and what that looks like in a relationship. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of the "good girl" and "bad girl" personas. What happens when a good girl goes bad? Can a bad girl be reformed into a good girl? How do good girls and bad girls show up in relationships? Iyanla is joined by special guests Damon "Bware" Vanzant and Coach Stormy Wellington, a reformed bad girl, to unpack these questions. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Iyanla is asking callers to contemplate whether or not they let the good one get away...or maybe they are the one that got away. How did it happen? Was there self-sabotaging? Were you ready to receive? Our first guest knows she let the good one get away, and Iyanla helps her figure out what to call in for her next relationship.  For our second guest, the one that got away was out of her control, but Iyanla advises on how to move forward when fate takes our lives in unforeseen directions.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In part two of the cheating series, Iyanla and her panel of guests dive into how to move on with an unfaithful partner while asking the question, was the relationship damaged before cheating? Iyanla also provides her guests with the principles needed to confront a cheating partner and how to rebuild trust in the relationship. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's a question many of us have faced in our lives: what do I do if my partner is cheating? Iyanla and her panel of guests provide real-world advice on how to trust your intuition when your partner is cheating and how to move forward and reevaluate your trust if your partner is in fact faithful. One panelist also shares how she handled the conversation in the past and how she would change her approach now.Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Iyanla delves into the controversial yet juicy topic of hall passes. What does it mean to allow your significant other the freedom to explore outside the relationship? Our caller doesn't think she'd give her husband a hall pass but admits there is a third party already in their relationship. Then, Iyanla and friends discuss how to approach the conversation, the potential benefits and pitfalls, and the difference between hall passes and cheating. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla is asking callers to take another look at their relationship with dating and posing the question: How do we define dating? What are the conversations we should be having dating? Our first caller is a young woman who expects to meet a man who is making six figures, who is well traveled and mature, but is having a hard time finding someone living up to her standards. Iyanla then has on Zakiya Fatin the author of What's Real, What's Not, and Somewhere In-Between, and together they discuss the do's, don'ts and oh no they didn'ts mentioned in her book. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla is asking callers to take another look at their relationship with themselves and posing the question: Would you date you? Our first caller believes she is the dream girl but is she ready to be loved back? Iyanla then helps her second caller navigate her new relationship with herself as a single woman.Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our exes can only have as much power and access as we give them. Iyanla explains how the stories we tell ourselves contribute to that dynamic. In the second installment of our Relationship with Our Exes series, Iyanla guides a caller through reclaiming her power after a tumultuous relationship. Domestic Violence Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit their website at www.thehotline.org RAINN at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or visit their website at rainn.org Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Exes. We all have them but we can't always let go of them. Two callers share their struggles with letting go and creating boundaries with their exes: one feels guilty about ending her relationship with a man who's going through a tough time in his life, while the other can't seem to shake her teenage love 10 years later. Iyanla provides both with insight on how to end these relationships for good. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!Instagram & X: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi, R Spot listeners! We are super excited about the return of Bridgerton: The Official Podcast and want you to share in the excitement with us. Alongside a new season of the TV show is the companion podcast, which takes you behind the scenes through interviews with actors, writers, directors, and more. We think you'll want to tune in, but don't just take our word for it. Check out the trailer and decide for yourself! Ready for more? Tune in weekly to Bridgerton: The Official Podcast. Available on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the second episode of our relationship with money series, Iyanla helps two callers re-evaluate their money stories. The first caller feels her money comes and goes while the second caller is trying to establish a relationship with money. Iyanla teaches both callers to create new money stories. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & Twitter: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week’s episode, Iyanla dives into the power money can have over us. The first caller feels she does not have the funds to live within her means, while the second caller works two jobs to make sure her family never goes without. Iyanla helps these callers redefine their money relationships. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! Instagram & Twitter: @IyanlaVanzant Facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, two callers struggle with the current state of the world and how it's impacting their lives. The first caller lives in such a state of fear it has shrunk her world, while the second caller worries she's not doing enough to contribute to society. Iyanla guides both through the process of reframing their place in an ever-changing world.Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!Instagram & Twitter: @IyanlaVanzantFacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With so much disaster and heartbreak going on in the world, Iyanla welcomes a woman to share the story of how recent events have taken a toll on her mental health. As Iyanla explores the idea that the world around you reflects people’s internal struggles, the caller learns to let go of things she cannot control. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla shares some deeply personal stories about learning to love herself and her now-infamous “quilting fabric” story to help two new callers who feel like they can’t be honest about who they are. The first is a woman who was abandoned by her parents and now exhausts herself by trying to be everything for her children. Then, the second caller met her perfect man, except for one thing: He controls all the money in the relationship. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla is taking a deep dive into self-respect and self-value. So when two callers join to share their own negative images of themselves, Iyanla tells them to “shut up that inner critic!” Each caller explores themselves with Iyanla to find what’s holding them back from self appreciation. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After Iyanla takes two calls seeking relationship autopsies, she quickly realizes that neither caller has ever had a successful relationship. The first caller admits to a pattern of allowing men to exploit her, stemming from deep betrayal experienced during her youth. Meanwhile, the second caller is concerned that the man she recently professed her love to might be gay. Iyanla conducts a comprehensive examination to uncover the culprit and offers insightful anecdotes in both cases. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Special guest, Reginald Lewis, the soul-matcher, returns to work with two women in the latest R Spot episode. Iyanla welcomes a caller who constantly accepts less than she deserves, which results in repeating the same patterns. Then, the next caller is a woman who isn’t up front with her intentions when it comes to using dating apps. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla brings special guest, Reginald Lewis, the soul-matcher, to help sort through some issues in a very tumultuous relationship. This week’s caller is a woman who’s been with her boyfriend since they were teenagers, and she still thinks he’s the one even after she ran him over with her car. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Two callers are ready to learn to co-parent with their exes, but Iyanla suspects there are deeper issues at play. The first caller is deep in a custody battle when she plans to take her daughter to another country and the second caller realizes she’s never even had a real relationship with the father of her child, a whoopsie-pregnancy after a one night stand. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week's episode, Iyanla conducts relationship autopsies, uncovering their true cause of death. Two callers share their heartbreaking stories: one ignored red flags and ended up in jail due to her partner's abuse and deception, while the other exposes the struggles of an 18-year marriage on life support since its inception. Tune in as Iyanla expertly diagnoses the underlying issues and offers prescriptions to clean up the wounds that threaten to tear relationships apart or attract the wrong people all together. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @‌IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @‌DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Stephan Speaks returns to spill the tea on the truth about how men date. This time, Iyanla and Stephan discuss the wandering penis versus the accidental cheating, and how spirituality can help guide men toward healing. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iconic truth-teller and YouTube superstar Stephan Speaks shares the real real about how men exist in relationships. From men who never let themselves fall in love to the debate about how women don’t enjoy sex the same as men, Iyanla and Stephan dive into it all. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This Valentine’s Day, Iyanla wants to dive into a topic not often discussed by talking to callers who are currently cheating, not being cheated on. And two women call in to share their stories of being the “other woman,” as they both try to find love in some unconventional ways. The first is on the road often and meets up with a married man with no expectations. The second caller is considering getting pregnant with a married man without telling her current partner. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla’s caller this week joins with a very interesting dilemma: Her adult daughter lives in her house, but won’t speak to her. They haven’t talked in two weeks. Iyanla immediately realizes that there’s more to the story – What led up to this and why did she move back home? Iyanla explores what went wrong during parenting that the daughter wants to be re-mothered as an adult. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In a special episode, Iyanla is joined by actor Courtney B. Vance and Dr. Robin Smith to discuss their new book: The Invisible Ache, which dives deep into the pain that men feel but rarely acknowledge. And to explore the idea, a caller joins to discuss how he’s lost his self confidence and doesn’t think he has the strength to lift the burden off his shoulders. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In an inspirational and transformational episode, Iyanla speaks with a man whose past two marriages ended when each wife cheated on him. After, he’s internalized a lack of self-confidence and is worried that the women he loves now will cheat on him, too. Iyanla has some sage insight that helps turn his whole perspective around. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the second half of Iyanla’s interview with relationship-expert Ace Metaphor, they deep dive into men who cheat, and cover some risky topics in a rapid fire Q&A. And Ace warns multiple times… People will be mad at him for what he’s about to say.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Joining Iyanla for a special one-on-one episode this week is YouTuber and relationship expert, Ace Metaphor. Not only does Iyanla respect his insight into relationships, but she also loves that he is a man who is finally telling the secret of why men who the things they do.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A woman in deep breakdown with her mother for over the past decade calls Iyanla to vent about the frustration and anxiety she feels about the relationship. But after hearing the full story, Iyanla gets to the truth: The caller doesn’t see her mother as a woman first, and together they get to the raw, emotional healing. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When two new callers who have been hurt by loved ones join Iyanla to explore the path toward healing, she has them pause and first acknowledge how they truly feel. The first caller is a gay man who has been looked down on by his religious family for years to the point where he feels completely cut off. And Iyanla’s second caller, a woman who has always doubted herself, must first admit that she is deeply, deeply hurt. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Returning for another deep dive conversation about mothers and sons is Author, activist and hip-hop artist Kevin Powell. This week, two new callers share their stories: The first, a woman who his the identity of her son’s father for 20 years, and the second, a mom who is dealing with her son’s drug use. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Author, activist and hip-hop artist Kevin Powell joins Iyanla in a special episode to talk about his new album Grocery Shopping With My Mother. Iyanla deep dives into Kevin’s realizations about his relationship with his mom before the two both council a caller who is in breakdown with her son. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla read a story about a woman proposing to her boyfriend and saw some of the incredibly interesting backlash about it online. So this week, Iyanla has a question for her listeners: Can a woman pop the question? And if not, how long should she wait before ending the relationship? Everyone’s got an opinion on the topic, with some tasty results. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla has always wondered: How do men handle being cheated on? So for this week’s episode, she dives in deep with two men who have had their hearts broken by cheaters. The first caller has been dating a woman for a year and has never been to her house, and now she’s suddenly showing some worrying behavior. Iyanla’s second caller is debating going back to a partner who has cheated on multiple times. Iyanla warns: It’s a trick! Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With a second season and a fun new format, Iyanla returns to dive into four caller’s issues in a single episode by asking the question: Is it him, or is it you? Each caller is dealing with something in their relationship: A partner who won’t commit, a lack of trust and even a relationship that might already be dead before it’s even really begun. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Taking an important lesson from her interview with Jada Pinkett Smith, Iyanla deep dives into the importance of self worth and where it comes from. Two callers join to discuss issues in their own self image – The first had a baby with a man she no longer wants to be with, but is keeping him in her life for the kids. And the second caller was waiting around for a man she knew didn’t want a serious relationship, just because she thought he was more valuable than she was. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla is back and ready to dive into more relationships for the second season of The R Spot, complete with some extra flavor for her “soup” with rapid fire call-ins and one-on-one special guests. Join her every Wednesday as she talks to you, the listeners, about your relationship issues.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In an episode all about shifting your perspective, Iyanla’s caller this week feels as though she’s the black sheep of the family, and can’t have a good relationship with her brother. After years of being mistreated and told she is always wrong, the caller is still afraid that if she lets go of the relationship, it may never heal. But to help guide the guest on the journey of acceptance, Iyanla shares a very personal story about her own relationship with her brother. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this intimate one-on-one with Jada Pinkett Smith Iyanla and Jada dive deep into the actresses self journey toward healing beyond the camera. In this magnetic and vulnerable conversation Jada discusses her shame about depression, forgiving her parents, and how her absent father taught her the ability to withstand hard life truths. Jada also reveals her transformative experience with plant medicine, facing her shadow side, and the power of implementing boundaries with loved ones. We learn how Jada’s acceptance of “not being okay” allowed her to do the personal work, which led her to become the heroine in her story with new memoir “Worthy." Worthy is available now wherever you buy books. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When two callers join Iyanla for conversations about their problems with family, Iyanla gets to the heart of the issue: Both women are dealing with learned behaviors where they put everyone else’s happiness above their own. The first caller has given up her career, friends and her life across the country to move home and take care of her grandfather, when her mother and aunt live nearby themselves. The second caller believes she has no self-confidence, thinking that her abusive childhood led her to not believe in herself. In two heart-tugging conversations, Iyanla shares the mantra: Your joy is your own responsibility. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant This is a rebroadcast of Episode 25See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When two women share their on-the-rocks marriage problems, Iyanla tells them it’s time to admit what they already know. The first caller’s husband is blaming ADHD as a reason for a lack of intimacy, while the second woman’s husband sometimes ignores her for days at a time in their own home. Both women learn to pull up their big girl panties and confront the situations head on. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  This is a rebroadcast of Episode 24. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What people experience as a child can have resonating ramifications for how they develop into adulthood. Two callers this week are working through their childhood traumas. One woman keeps having flashbacks to degrading and mean comments her mother made when she was young, and she feels like she can’t move on from it. Then, a second caller wants to be close to his parents, but feels like they never allowed him to express himself. Iyanla guides both callers toward forgiveness and acceptance of their unhealed inner child. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  This is a rebroadcast of Episode 13.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Blindsided by a sudden breakup shortly after closing the gap on a long distance relationship, one caller is left heartbroken and confused by the continued mixed messages. Another caller is certain her masculine energy is preventing her from attracting the ideal man. Iyanla has some guidance for the both of them: Choose yourself, and grow some lady balls! It just might help them both find a relationship that works. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant This is a rebroadcast of Episode 9. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Callers this week are feeling unfulfilled in their romantic relationships, but can’t get up the courage to make a change despite clear issues. Iyanla shares a story of a hound dog that has a deeper message that may help these callers make a decision with their husbands.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant This is a rebroadcast of Episode 5. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week’s callers think there are no more good single men out there. One woman is only attracting men who take and never give in the relationship, and now she measures her relationships as a transaction. Then, the second caller believes she’ll never find what she wants in a partner, and because of that ends up finding men who leave her. Iyanla takes it all the way back to the root, diving into each callers’ belief systems (B.S.) developed at a young age. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant This is a rebroadcast of Episode 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After sharing news about her relationship with her daughter, Iyanla invites two callers to examine their desire to cut their mothers out of their lives. What may seem like an easy way to move on turns into an exercise in forgiveness and the recognition of their own dark sides. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  This is a rebroadcast of Episode 2. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla shares a very personal story about her relationship with her daughter, which helps spark a conversation on releasing control of a situation in order to heal it. Iyanla’s first caller is a divorced father who desperately wants his daughter to rekindle a relationship with her mother, but he’s plagued by guilt over mishandling the situation. Then, a second caller is a fixer, always wanting to step in and solve everyone else’s problems, even if it means overstepping or putting herself second. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  This episode is a rebroadcast of Episode 37.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla’s latest caller has a lot going on – she’s currently pregnant and asked her husband for a divorce, but on top of that, she’s also lost her dream job and has been struggling financially. But the problem really comes to the forefront when Iyanla askes her… “What do you want?” This week on The R Spot, Iyanla deep dives into admitting when you’ve made a mess of things, and her secret solution toward getting back onto the right path. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant This episode is a rebroadcast of Episode 35. Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle CollinsProducer & Editor: Vince DajaniAssociate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In a powerful and hopefully-enlightening episode, Iyanla speaks with a father who was former military, and is now struggling with a divorce. He’s worried that his two adult children weren’t given a good life and may end up resenting him for his choice to leave their mother, even though it was best for him. Iyanla finds the real core of the issue and helps the caller, and maybe more listeners out there, learn to understand that men can experience heartbreak too… And sometimes they need to let it happen in order to grow. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant This episode is a rebroadcast of Episode 20. Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle CollinsProducer & Editor: Vince DajaniAssociate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the final episode of Season one of The R Spot, Iyanla reflects on an important lesson with Two women who want to discuss boundaries for very different situations. The first caller feels like she has to set a strict boundary with her stepmother, who she is in conflict with. And the second caller feels like her boundaries are constantly violated at work, so much so that she gets angry about it. Iyanla helps guide both women toward the realization that sometimes accountability looks different between generations. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A young man calls Iyanla this week, looking for help in navigating the relationships with his friends and family members who all seemingly turned on him unexpectedly. However, Iyanla gets to the heart of the issue and learns that the caller was keeping a few secrets, not only from her, but from his friends and family that might have caused the blow up. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When two women call Iyanla looking for advice on what to do about moving on from their current relationships, Iyanla lets them know that first, she doesn’t give advice, and second, that they should be listening to their hearts. One caller is torn about blocking her ex-husband on social media because she views herself as a good Christian woman, and the second caller uprooted her whole life for a drug-addicted man who she can’t seem to move on from. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, a struggling woman calls Iyanla looking to learn how she can be happy being single, but as Iyanla learns more about the caller’s situation, it becomes apparent that there’s more to the story. The caller shares the heartbreaking experience of her father’s death, and learns that her relationship being transactional might have some huge consequences for her happiness going forward. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla’s first caller this week is a woman who kept the identity of her child’s father a secret, and now ends up with a daughter who feels like she’s been lied to. Then, another caller with six children has recently forced her partner out of the house because of “poor communication.” But Iyanla gets her to admit that she still loves him, and maybe has made a few mistakes of her own. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, two callers reach out to Iyanla to share their situations. The first woman is in a relationship with a man who has never introduced her to any of his family, and only meets her at hotels for the weekend. Iyanla thinks there might be something suspicious there. Then, the second caller has her abusive mother living in her home as a favor. In both instances, Iyanla warns the callers that by lifting someone else up… they’re putting themselves on the bottom. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A mother is at her wit’s end with her son, who is now lashing out at her and calling her names. Despite the caller’s best efforts to be a good mother and provide everything for her son, who she adopted and raised as her own, things in their relationship have devolved to threats of violence. Iyanla guides the caller toward letting her heart break first, and then finding a way to move forward. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Two callers join Iyanla this week to recount their stories about how poor communication with their boyfriends has caused the downfall of their relationships. However, when Iyanla hears what’s really going on… She’s not so sure it’s a communication issue. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Iyanla dedicates an episode to Grandma Schnookums – a particular type of elder woman of an older generation. Iyanla’s caller is a 30-year-old man who is in conflict with his grandmother after calling her out for being rude and embarrassing on Facebook. But Iyanla takes the conversation down an unexpected route – Should the caller be taking 100% of the responsibility for the breakdown of the relationship? Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Two callers this week believe they can’t get over their relationships. The first woman, only 26 years old, is still hung up on her ex who chose a dog over her. And the second caller got re-married to her ex-husband, but is now seeking a second divorce after learning he paid for sex.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week’s episode is all about mothers-in-law, when two women tell Iyanla that they’re both in conflict with their partners’ overbearing mother. The first caller feels abandoned by her own family and her husband, leading to a revolutionary breakdown. Iyanla’s second caller is dealing with a mother who micromanages everything, texting about every detail, like if her son has eaten for the day. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla’s caller this week is dealing with two major issues: An absentee partner and family members who are recently estranged. The caller recently lost her mother and during the months before the end, she went to take care of her. She now feels disconnected from the rest of her family, and in the meantime, her partner stayed at their home and never visited or supported her. While the caller is unsure how to repair the relationships, Iyanla is shocked to hear that she hasn't yet run for the hills.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week’s callers might seem very different on the surface: The first experienced abuse as a child and keeps finding herself in abusive relationships, while the second caller had a happy home life, but feels that she’s not being loved the way she needs to. But, as Iyanla gets deep into the conversations with both callers, she realizes that they’re both dealing with a similar issue: The struggle of repeating the patterns and attracting partners who were like their parents. Can Iyanla help these women adjust their frequencies? Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Two women reach out to Iyanla today about similar issues: Feeling lost in their relationships with their husbands. The first caller’s husband told her that he wants to have multiple wives, completely out of nowhere. Now she’s not sure how to stay and deal with it, or leave him. Iyanla’s second caller has been a victim of physical and verbal abuse from a man who doesn’t help her raise their kids. But as Iyanla gets further into the issue, it becomes apparent that love is still there – so is it possible these two repair their relationship? Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When a caller joins Iyanla to express his fear about ending his marriage, it becomes apparent that he’s got no exit strategy in place. The caller is unable to take ownership of his desire to end the relationship, which means he might not actually be ready to move on. And, as Iyanla digs deeper, she uncovers that he may be getting emotionally blackmailed. So, to get to the core of his fear of the future, Iyanla guides him toward saying, “I’m Done.” Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla shares a very personal story about her relationship with her daughter, which helps spark a conversation on releasing control of a situation in order to heal it. Iyanla’s first caller is a divorced father who desperately wants his daughter to rekindle a relationship with her mother, but he’s plagued by guilt over mishandling the situation. Then, a second caller is a fixer, always wanting to step in and solve everyone else’s problems, even if it means overstepping or putting herself second. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla’s heard the same relationship issue again and again – when people self-diagnose the problem, which ultimately leads to misdiagnosis. In this episode, Iyanla’s first caller is a successful businesswoman who keeps finding herself attracting partners who battle drug addictions. A second caller has convinced herself that her marriage is falling apart due to her anxious vs. avoidant attachment style issue with her partner. Both women learn to focus on the core of the dysfunction, as well as the importance of self-growth and letting go. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla’s latest caller has a lot going on – she’s currently pregnant and asked her husband for a divorce, but on top of that, she’s also lost her dream job and has been struggling financially. But the problem really comes to the forefront when Iyanla askes her… “What do you want?” This week on The R Spot, Iyanla deep dives into admitting when you’ve made a mess of things, and her secret solution toward getting back onto the right path. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One caller is left wondering whether or not he should leave his marriage in order to gain a clear peace of mind. He feels selfish for wanting to separate from his partner that he currently has four children with. Another caller wants her partner to value and appreciate her. But should she keep her family together, or leave the rocky and abusive relationship, knowing that he has cheated on her? Iyanla offers insight to them both: be willing to forgive oneself, and be careful not to be lured back in by urges, desires, and the good ol’ “Hoo-Haa”!  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla welcomes two new callers this week, and listens in as they each look for the answer on how to have healthy relationships given their toxic situations. The first woman is trying to figure out how she can continue having a relationship with a partner who is attracted to substance abuse. The second caller is a woman who is trying to attract better relationships and stop ending up with guys who have mother abandonment issues. Iyanla dives deep into both of the underlying issues, guiding the callers toward how their circumstances all turns back to themselves. She asks them both to pay attention to their bonding patterns in order to find answers. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla dives deep into sibling and parental relationships in an episode with a single caller who is having a breakdown with her “Guardian.” The caller, a 29-year-old woman was raised by her older sister after their mother died at a young age. Now, the caller resents her sister for the way she was raised – with physical and emotional abuse that led to a combative adult relationship. Iyanla’s caller isn’t sure if she has a mother/daughter relationship, a sister relationship, or no relationship at all. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Two callers seek Iyanla’s guidance this week, each looking for the answer on whether to stay or go in their relationships. The first woman has recently been betrayed by her husband for the second time, and she’s not sure if she can go through the heartbreak again. The second caller, a woman who continuously breaks up and gets back together with her partner feels as though she’s only sticking around for one thing: the sex. So Iyanla flips the question back to the callers, asking, “How do YOU know when it’s over?” Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When a young woman calls in search of help finding her place in the world, Iyanla shares a personal story that sparks an idea – Maybe what’s missing today is a type of Auntie guidance where the past generations share their knowledge and experiences with young women. So, Iyanla shares her wisdom with the first caller, a woman who feels unhappy in her current life path. Then, Iyanla dives deep into what it means to mother with a second caller who feels like she cannot live a happy life without her mother’s guidance. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Iyanla explores the idea of the broken parts of ourselves that everyone holds inside them, yearning for what they never got as children. Iyanla’s first caller is a woman who feels like she can’t heal the broken parts inside of her, even though she can recognize that there’s a problem. And the second caller desperately wants to be able to love and take care of her mom, who is ill, but can’t seem to show the love she’s always wanted to receive. Iyanla shares the story of how she named and tamed her inner children. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When a struggling young man calls in with issues surrounding his own identity, Iyanla finds a way to get to the core of the issue. Her caller today feels like he’s constantly held down by his mother and sister, who diminish him as less of a man. Unfortunately, he’s financial dependent on his mother, and feels more like her emotional partner rather than her son, so isn’t sure how to stand up and be his own person. Iyanla helps guide him toward becoming a man with a plan, rather than a victim. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla noticed a pattern – whether it’s socks or a pair of pants, what she puts inside the wash is exactly what she gets back out. So when two struggling callers share their experiences with Iyanla, she decides it’s time to look at what they’re putting into their relationships from the start. The first woman feels like she’s putting her all into every romantic relationship she’s had, but when she finally lets her guard down, the love isn’t returned. And the second caller feels as though she’s seen people get burned too many times… Is it even worth trying to find love again? Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In an episode all about shifting your perspective, Iyanla’s caller this week feels as though she’s the black sheep of the family, and can’t have a good relationship with her brother. After years of being mistreated and told she is always wrong, the caller is still afraid that if she lets go of the relationship, it may never heal. But to help guide the guest on the journey of acceptance, Iyanla shares a very personal story about her own relationship with her brother. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When two callers join Iyanla for conversations about their problems with family, Iyanla gets to the heart of the issue: Both women are dealing with learned behaviors where they put everyone else’s happiness above their own. The first caller has given up her career, friends and her life across the country to move home and take care of her grandfather, when her mother and aunt live nearby themselves. The second caller believes she has no self-confidence, thinking that her abusive childhood led her to not believe in herself. In two heart-tugging conversations, Iyanla shares the mantra: Your joy is your own responsibility. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When two women share their on-the-rocks marriage problems, Iyanla tells them it’s time to admit what they already know. The first caller’s husband is blaming ADHD as a reason for a lack of intimacy, while the second woman’s husband sometimes ignores her for days at a time in their own home. Both women learn to pull up their big girl panties and confront the situations head on. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, two callers are unsure if they should put up with behavior they’ve been unhappy with from their partners. The first guest feels like her partner has lied to her about being divorced, and that’s a huge no-no for her. Then, another caller believes her partner’s kids and ex-wife are the problem in her relationship, but Iyanla thinks the issue is with her judgement of the situation. Iyanla guides both callers to learning how to express their boundaries with their partners. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla says that sometimes one of the hardest things to do is to accept that people can come from toxic roots, and that it’s their job to uproot the toxicity. This week, two sisters join Iyanla for an extended episode where they share their own family traumas, ranging from emotional to physical abuse. Now, as adults, both sisters want to figure out how to have a relationship with their toxic parents, who they consider narcissists and broken people. Iyanla guides the conversation to steering away from judgement to a place of growth and forgiveness. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla shares the story of her estranged relationship with her sister, which changed her view of every woman who enters her life. So when two women call in with breakdowns in relationship with their own sisters, Iyanla is ready to listen. The first caller recently learned that her and her sister had different biological fathers, but she doesn’t know how to bring it up to her sister for fear of her sister feeling disconnected from their relationship. Iyanla’s second caller is a woman with a family rift due to perceived jealousy, but after their mother died, the caller desperately wants to connect with her sister. Iyanla guides both callers to seeing things from another perspective in order to grow. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In a powerful and hopefully-enlightening episode, Iyanla speaks with a father who was former military, and is now struggling with a divorce. He’s worried that his two adult children weren’t given a good life and may end up resenting him for his choice to leave their mother, even though it was best for him. Iyanla finds the real core of the issue and helps the caller, and maybe more listeners out there, learn to understand that men can experience heartbreak too… And sometimes they need to let it happen in order to grow. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, two callers have set themselves up for experiencing exactly what they don’t want in their relationships. One caller is dating a man who has a son, while she doesn’t ever want children – yet she believes the issue is with her partner. The second caller is considering returning to a toxic relationship because of the pressure from her children and her ex. Iyanla recognizes the issue in both situations – each caller believes they cannot have what they want, which created their predicaments. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Two callers this week believe their problems are in their current situations – one who is a self-proclaimed people pleaser, and the other, a returning caller who can’t seem to make progress in fixing her life. However, Iyanla notices that they’re both dealing with scattered thoughts. Both callers have been traumatized and must ask for the help they need to heal. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla believes that a betrayal of trust by a family member can be one of the most difficult relationships to heal from, but also one of the most beneficial. And two callers this week have detailed stories of betrayal to share on their paths toward healing. One caller had the police called on her after she exposed her sister’s cheating husband. And a second caller has always had contention with her three sisters, whom she now hasn’t talked to for years after a very minor disagreement. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla takes a look at the other side of the parent/child relationship, with two callers whose mothers still treat them like children. The first caller feels like he had to become the emotional support for his mother after his father died, which created an unhealthy relationship. Then, a second caller wants to have some relationship with their mother, but can’t seem to set boundaries like an adult. Iyanla guides both callers toward standing up and presenting themselves as children no longer. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla classifies a relationship as lasting for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. In this week’s episode, callers share stories of returning to a relationship for a second (or third, or fourth) time – something Iyanla calls “Double Dipping.” One caller continuously returns to a man who disappears from her life for long periods of time, while another caller believes second chances never work in romantic relationships as it’s only left her with a broken heart. Iyanla guides both callers to understanding the “reason for the season” in these recurring relationships.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week’s callers think there are no more good, single men out there. One woman is only attracting men who take and never give in the relationship, and now she measures her relationships as a transaction. Then, the second caller believes she’ll never find what she wants in a partner, and because of that ends up finding men who leave her. Iyanla takes it all the way back to the root, diving into each callers’ belief systems (B.S.) developed at a young age.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What people experience as a child can have resonating ramifications for how they develop into adulthood. Two callers this week are working through their childhood traumas. One woman keeps having flashbacks to degrading and mean comments her mother made when she was young, and she feels like she can’t move on from it. Then, a second caller wants to be close to his parents, but feels like they never allowed him to express himself. Iyanla guides both callers toward forgiveness and acceptance of their unhealed inner child. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After 12 years of marriage, one woman is on the verge of divorce because her husband continues to spend time with an ex and many female “friends”, which he refuses to let her meet. Another caller’s boyfriend left him when he didn’t lose the weight gained as a result of the stress of significant loss. Iyanla dives right in, reminding both callers that the most important things for them, in this moment, is to set their boundaries, learn from their mistakes and choose themselves. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With the intention of bringing a family back together, one woman is trying to bridge the estranged relationship between her boyfriend and his daughter. The problem is: her boyfriend never asked for help. Then, Iyanla’s second caller is frustrated when her husband shuts down after trying to over-communicate her issues with him. Iyanla’s guidance on both issues is straightforward: Communication in a way that works for you and your partner is the only solution. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In a mental-health-conscious episode, one caller recently moved in with their now-adult son after a crisis, and is struggling to live together without treating him like a child. Another caller suddenly became a guardian to her grandchildren after a heartbreaking loss and needs some support moving forward Iyanla asks that both women seek the strength inside themselves and to, most importantly, ask for the help that they need without feeling like they’re doing something wrong.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Blindsided by a sudden breakup shortly after closing the gap on a long distance relationship, one caller is left heartbroken and confused by the continued mixed messages. Another caller is certain her masculine energy is preventing her from attracting the ideal man. Iyanla has some guidance for the both of them: Choose yourself, and grow some lady balls! It just might help them both find a relationship that works. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Iyanla often says that if you are emotionally untrusting, you will attract emotionally untrust-worthy people, and that couldn’t be more true for both of her callers today. The first caller is dating a married man and is unsure if she should end the relationship, but Iyanla doesn’t buy the lie. Then, after constantly being friend-zoned, another woman realizes that she is constantly pushing to find “the one,” all while being emotionally guarded. When love is difficult, Iyanla reminds both callers that if they want to know the end, look at how the relationship began – either in a lie, or out of desperation. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Two callers believe they know what’s wrong in their relationships, but Iyanla thinks otherwise. One woman feels betrayed by her husband when he chooses his mother and other women over her, even right after she gave birth to their child. The second caller’s girlfriend called her selfish and entitled, but she doesn’t think it’s true. Iyanla gets to the heart of the issues, allowing her callers to finally be honest with themselves about what’s really wrong in their relationships. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Just because there isn’t money or children involved doesn’t mean that a friendship is any easier of a relationship. In an episode devoted to friend relationships, two callers are under constant fear that they’ll suddenly lose their friends. The first caller wants to reconnect with a friend who already cut her out of their life once before, which Iyanla fears will only happen again. The next caller develops personal attachments to the clients she works with, and then feels like she loses a friend once the client moves on. Iyanla identifies a major issue for both of them: They are repeating their bonding patterns over and over. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Callers this week are feeling unfulfilled in their romantic relationships, but can’t get up the courage to make a change despite clear issues. Iyanla shares a story of a hound dog that has a deeper message that may help these callers make a decision with their husbands.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ending a relationship can be a difficult process at its best, or a painful experience at its worse. This week’s callers discuss the difficulties in their relationships, from cheating to violating boundaries and the challenges in breaking up. Iyanla guides her callers to “know what they know” and do what’s right for them.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Two callers seek Iyanla’s guidance on navigating their relationships with their husbands, each for very different reasons: Diane’s husband had a stroke and now she is the primary caregiver, and Maggie’s lost trust in her husband after a financial loss. Iyanla’s expertise may help return these two women to love within themselves or their relationships.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant  Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After sharing news about her relationship with her daughter, Iyanla invites two callers to examine their desire to cut their mothers out of their lives. What may seem like an easy way to move on turns into an exercise in forgiveness and the recognition of their own dark sides. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information!instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzantfacebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this empowering first episode of The R Spot Iyanla talks to Ms. E., a breast cancer survivor struggling with body image post mastectomy. Worried about how a new suitor may react to her altered body, Ms. E.’s love life has been non-existent since her life saving surgery. Iyanla gives Ms. E. her voice back and invites her to get under the story she’s telling herself about her experience. Ms. E.’s courage inspires Iyanla to share her own personal journey and how she fell in love with herself. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Shondaland Audio and iHeartRadio present: The R Spot with Iyanla. Each week, New York Times best-selling author and famed spiritual life coach, Iyanla Vanzant, invites callers to share their personal relationship issues during live sessions to help inspire, grow and guide them and other listeners to “do the work” toward healing. Get new episodes of The R Spot every Wednesday. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.